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Secrets of Speed Seduction, Home Study

Course Book and Workbook:

How To Create An Instantaneous Sexual

Attraction in Any Woman You Meet!!!

COPYRIGHT 1994, Ross Jeffries.

All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in

any form or any means without written permission from the

author.

Published in the USA.

For more information or free catalog, contact:

Ross Jeffries

6245 Bristol Parkway, Suite 275

Culver City, CA 90230

DISCLAIMER

Neither the author, nor the publisher of this book take any

responsibility for the use or misuse of the information it

presents. The reader is warned that this material presents

extremely powerful technology, to be used at the readers own

risk. This book is presented for information and entertainment

purposes only.

Be warned, therefore, that this book neither asserts the

legality of any of the methods it describes, and the author

unequivocally disclaims any responsibility for damages resulting

from the use of any of the techniques or the consequences of

implementing any contained herein.

"Give me five minutes to talk away my face, and I'll bed the

Queen of France." ... Voltaire

"I come to you with only words,

Looks and money I have none,

But should desire require it,

My words will bear me out!" ... Speed Seducer's Creed

INTRODUCTION

WHY SPEED SEDUCTION?

One of the toughest realities we have to face as men is, that

for the most of us, getting laid is a form of gambling, and the

game is strongly rigged against us.

Think back to the last time you had a date. C'mon ... it wasn't

that long ago, was it?

Didn't you find yourself, either before or during the evening,

wondering things like, "When should I make my move? Am I going

to get some tonight? Will I get lucky?".

And that's the bottom line ... for too many of us, dealing with

women is a matter of luck, meaning it is something which is out

of our control.

But hold on a second. What if you could design your own "game of

chance" where YOU get to set the rules? What if you could play a

poker game where you get to pick the cards you're dealt, you get

to see her hand before you bet, and you get to borrow money from

her to bet against her?

You'd play that game 24 hours per day, that's what.

And that is what Speed Seduction does: it puts you back in

control by teaching you how to create, on a repeatable,

predictable basis, the kind of results you want with the kind of

women you want, where and when you want it.

Does this sound like an outrageous claim? I certainly hope so;

it goes against the beliefs of our entire culture; a culture

that teaches you that "attraction" can't be created, that it

just has to be a matter of "chemistry", that is either there or

it isn't.

By the time you're done with this book, or the home study course

of which it is a part, you'll be thoroughly convinced that our

entire culture is totally full of shit. Even more important

you'll be able to use this knowledge to give you an incredible

edge over 99% of the population, not only when it comes to

getting laid, but in every area of your life.

SPECIAL NOTE:

This book is designed as a WORKBOOK, to be used as part of my

entire Speed Seduction Home Study Course. This means two things:

1. It's not designed to be passively read. You have to

actively participate.

2. If you didn't acquire it as part of the entire course,

which includes about 12 hours of audio tapes, among other

things, you should seriously consider doing it.

One thing more. This book is divided in two sections: theory and

practical application. If you want to jump ahead to the

practical application section, go ahead, feel free. Just make

sure that later you go back and get the theory stuff down; you

should understand what you're doing if you really want to get

excellent at this stuff.

Ross Jeffries

Los Angeles, California

June, 1994

Chapter 1: THERE'S NO SUCH THING, THERE'S NO SUCH THING, THERE'S

NO SUCH THING!!!!!

Ok. Here is the first key secret to understanding, not only

Speed Seduction, but any form of influence or persuasion, in any

area of life:

There's no such "thing" as love. There's no such "thing" as

passion. There's no such "thing" as attraction, or chemistry, or

lust.

I know, I know, you're saying. That's the problem ... for most

of you, most of the time, there's no such thing. There's just

boredom, frustration, and playing with Mr. Winky.

But that's not what I'm talking about, so pay close attention.

I'm not saying that people don't experience states of

"attraction" or "chemistry" or "lust". What I am saying is that

these states are processes that take place inside the human mind

and body. Which means that they are states that ...

CAN BE SUMMONED FORTH AND DIRECTED AT WILL!!!

Here's An Example: "Falling in Love" Exposed!!!!

Ok. Since I'm being pretty general and theoretical here let's

get a bit more specific and talk about what every woman dreams

about: falling in love.

Now, based on what I've said so far, do you think I believe

"love" is based on some mysterious "chemistry" that flows

between two people? Maybe it's caused by a butt-naked little

angel named Cupid who shoots an arrow into your ass?

No, Here's how people fall in love: First, understand you do NOT

fall in love with someone when you are in their presence. No.

You fall in love when you're off by yourself, thinking about

them afterwards. This is why it is so hypnotically powerful,

because you are doing it to yourself, and people are always

their best hypnotists.

Here's how it happens: you go out with someone, maybe even one

date. And then you go home, and you're lying there, thinking

about them. And, you form an image of them in your mind. And as

you do that, you start to list to yourself all the qualities

about them that you like, "She's so , she's so , she's really ."

Maybe then you picture you and them having lots of fun in all

sorts of situations. Then you get that warm, funny feeling right

in your solar plexus, and then, the nail in your coffin, you say

her name to yourself 2 or 3 times. If you're really a geek,

maybe you even dance around the house singing it!! Or you

possibly go about bring up her name in every conversation.

Sound familiar? Now, as you recall the times in your past when

you did this, were you then able to stay cool, in control of

yourself AND the relationship? Or were you calling her every

day, always wanting to see her, and eager to kiss her ass, to

the point where she, of course, dropped you?

Here's the point: "love" is a process people do to themselves!

It's not a "thing" you trip over or a "hole" you fall into. And

I know, even though I'm not there watching you, that as I

describe it here on paper, you recalled and went through that

process yourself, and recalled the feelings associated with it.

And if I can do it to you, on paper, when I'm not even there,

then you can, if you know how, skillfully describe this (or any

other) process to a woman in your presence, link it to yourself,

and in a matter of minutes, cause her ...

UNDERGO THAT PROCESS AND FALL IN LOVE WITH YOU

ON THE SPOT, DUMMY!!!!

Think about this for a second. The dumb process you did to

yourself can now be used to make her fawn all over you,

repeatably and predictably!

Of course, the same thing applies to any other process you want

her to run, or state you want her to experience, whether it's

forgetting your competitor, (We'll show you how to do this later

with my infamous "Boyfriend Destroyer Pattern") or anything else

you care to name. If she's done it or experienced it once

before, you can get her to do it or experience it with you

again!!

How The Speed Seducer Thinks Things Differently

In light of that understanding, consider this for just a second.

Let's say there's some juicy, super-hot, incredible babe you've

lusted after for a long time. And, to further sweeten the

scenario, let's say through prayer, good karma, and the

intercession of the Pope, you've managed to get a date with her.

Should you be asking yourself questions like, "Where should I

take her? How should I dress?".

If you only ask yourself these totally unimportant questions,

then you are a chump. No. From now on, you'll ask yourself the

question I always get the men in my seminars to ask:

If I could create any states of mind I want in this woman, this

evening, what states would I want her to experience with me? Ok?

How about states of:

*LUST*

*WANTON DESIRE*

*UTTER FASCINATION*

*FEROCIOUS HORNINESS*

*HOPELESSLY IN LOVE*

*SLAVISH OBEDIENCE*

*ORAL FIXATION*

Not bad for starters, huh? If you can get a woman to experience

these kind of states in your presence (and to think about you

this way obsessively even when your not around) do you think you

are going to wind up with just a polite peck on the cheek, a

handshake goodnight, and a "let's just be friends", at the end

of the evening? Or is she going to be all over you like flies on

a mortician? You see, rather than thinking of how to get her to

do all the behaviors you want from her, i.e., humping, sucking,

etc., first think of what states of mind you want her to be in;

states where it would be natural for her to do all those nasty

things to and with you.

This brings us to a second key point that separates a Speed

Seducer from the Average Frustrated Chump. You see, the AFC

talks just to be flapping his lips, trying to be entertaining,

or maybe, gulp, trying to get the girl to understand him. The

Speed Seducer (and any good Master of Persuasion) knows that he

must ...

ALWAYS COMMUNICATE WITH A DIRECTION AND OUTCOME

IN MIND!!!!

You see, some of what I'm going to show you in later chapters

may cause you to think, "Will the girl understand what I'm

saying to her?". And my response is: THE PURPOSE OF YOUR

COMMUNICATION IS NOT TO GIVE HER AN UNDERSTANDING. THE PURPOSE

OF YOUR COMMUNICATION IS TO GET YOU A RESULT!!!!

That "result" is to put her in a state of lust, horniness,

fascination, etc. that you want her in, because once she's in

these states, it's natural for her to want to do all those nasty

things to your body and to want you to do them to hers.

A Little Metaphor To Further Your Understanding

Once, I asked a Master of Persuasion if he could give me a

better understanding of how to influence women. He told me the

following story:

"When I set out to influence a woman, I like to think of myself

as a fisherman. Everything I do, every action I take is

organized around landing that fish.

Now, I'll dangle the bait in the water, and then I'll watch to

see what the fish does. And the fish will come up and smell the

bait, and put it's mouth around the bait. And I'm watching to

see what part of the bait the fish likes.

Now, right here is where most people make their mistake. You

see, as soon as the fish bites down they start reeling in that

line like crazy. But I never do that, because I consider that I

only have a 10 pound fishing line to catch a 150 pound fish.So

if the fish feels me pulling on the line, it's going to pull

back and that line will S-N-A-P and no fish for me.

So what I do is stay right in front of that fish, and what I do

is I start reeling myself to the fish. So as I walk up on that

fish the fish doesn't feel any tug or pull on the line so it

doesn't resist me. And it just seems natural to it as I get

closer and closer to it. And the closer I get to it, the

stronger my line is and the smaller the fish gets. Till by the

time I'm right up to that fish with my net, I've got a 500 pound

line for a 10 pound fish. And the fish feels so natural that it

just eliminates it's own resistance and thinks, "Hey this is

right. This is natural. It's natural to jump in the boat, get

skinned, gutted, fried up and eaten!"

Now, wasn't that a nice story? I want you to think well on it,

because I don't want you to go making the same dumb mistakes I

made when I was first learning Speed Seduction.

Let me explain a bit. You see, when I first started out, I was

so excited by the fact that I could get very hot-looking women

sexually excited and turned on in just a few minutes time, that

I went right for the jugular every time out.

So, was I successful in getting these women hot and bothered?

You bet. But did I get laid doing it? USUALLY NOT!!! Because I

came on strong, without softening them up first that ...

I ONLY SUCCEEDED IN SCARING THEM OFF!!!!

That's right. Yes, if you first do the sexual patterns I'll

teach you, a woman will very likely get nicely hot and bothered.

But unless she is already a highly sexual person who will fuck

at the drop of a hat, or she knows you quite well already,

getting her aroused and turned on to you right off the bat is

just going to scare her. She's just going to think ... "God, I'm

really getting hot, but I shouldn't be feeling this way. I don't

even know this guy!".

In other words, you're gonna tug the line so hard, it's going to

S-N-A-P and your fish is going to swim away.

Remember, as you use the patterns I'm going to show you, there

are considerations you have to keep in mind, like how well you

already know the woman and what kind of bond you've already

built with her; to what degree she already is a highly sexual

person; and finally if she has any major trust/control issues.

Therefore, it's usually extremely important to first use the

techniques I'll show you that create states of intense emotional

connection, as if she's known you her whole life, before moving

on to the sexual arousal stuff. When you create that kind of

connection (you can do it in about 7 minutes using what I'll

show you), you often don't even have to do the sexual stuff,

since for most women that kind of connection is what sex is all

about anyway. (Guys are different ... sometimes I think we just

want to dump loads?)

Patty Cake, Patty Cake, Baker's Man: Another Metaphor To Help

You Understand

One useful way to think about Speed Seduction is to consider the

process of baking a cake. First, before you even get out the

recipe, you have to WANT to bake the cake. You have to BELIEVE

you can bake the cake. Then, most importantly, you have to get

off your rear and ...

GET BAKING, BUDDY!!!

The various patterns I'm going to be sharing with you throughout

this course can be considered to be recipes. In order to use a

recipe correctly you not only have to make sure you have the

right ingredients, but you also have to make sure ...

YOU USE THEM IN THE RIGHT ORDER OR SEQUENCE!!

As an example, you don't whip up the cake mix, stick it in the

oven at 450 degrees for thirty minutes, and then, when you're

done, beat in the egg!!

The same holds true for the various patterns I'm going to show

you. You have to do them in the right sequence. The following

sequence is the formula to get virtually any woman you want to

be madly, passionately in love with you. It's what runs almost

every pattern I'll teach you.

1. Get her attention

2. Establish states of her feeling an incredible bond and

connection to you

3. Create states of horniness, arousal, attraction

4. Amplify those states, and link them to you

Now, don't wince at all this. Some of these patterns are only

three or four sentences along, and don't take more than 5

minutes to do!! The reason I'm taking such pains to explain is I

want you to understand how what you're doing works, so you can

improve upon it and come up with stuff even better!!

You see, the average Speed Seducer will just blindly memorize

the words of a seduction pattern, without understanding what

he's doing. And, in many cases this will work. He'll still beat

out his untrained competition 9 times out of 10.

But the smart guy, the true, blue, deep in the guts Speed

Seducer, will want to understand what he's doing. And he'll get

so good at it that ..

... THE GIRLS HE'S BANGING WILL BRING THEIR FEMALE FRIENDS

AROUND JUST TO SHOW THEM WHAT THEY'VE GOT, AND HE'LL WIND UP

NAILING THEM TOO!!

A Word about Softeners

One of the things that can be useful to you as you find yourself

using these patterns in a very powerful way, is to make sure you

soften what you do, by throwing in some fluff phrases.

For example, I'll often say things like, "You know, I hope you

don't mind my asking this, but one of the things I like to do is

to find out about the person I'm getting to know, and I do that

by asking questions about what's important to them. So as you

look at men and think about what we're talking about, I'd just

like to ask you:"

And then I get on to the pattern I'm going to use with her. Now,

you'll find that by doing this you can get away with stuff that

she'd normally might call you on.

Other softeners might be:

1. I know this might seem a little wild, but just for the

sake of this playful discussion we're having ...

2. I just want to say, and I hope you don't find this too

intrusive ...

3. Would you mind if I just asked you, just for the sake

of helping me to understand better ...

All of these work because they pace any possible objection she

might have to going along with you.

Rules and Attitudes Of Jeffries Speed Seduction

1. Always communicate with a direction or outcome in mind.

When you talk to a woman, never do it just to be flapping

your lips!! Think of the states you want her in and then

use your skills to direct her there!!

2. First create states of fascination, connection, feeling an

intense bond, before you move for the sexual stuff! Most

women will not feel comfortable if you get them aroused

first and S-N-A-P goes that fish line!

3. The purpose of your communication is not to give her and

understanding; the purpose is to get you a result!! Speed

Seduction works by manipulating and directing unconscious

processes, NOT by getting her conscious agreement. Leave

arguing and explaining to your competitors.

4. Speed Seducing is fun!! If you aren't being directed by a

playful attitude, then you aren't doing Speed Seduction.

5. Keep your skills a secret! Any technique works best if it

is hidden and unexpected, so don't tell them that you know

this stuff!!

6. Be a stainless steel fist in a velvet glove!! Always be as

low key and understated as possible in the application of

your skills. Not, "ha ha, I'm doing this to you", but "gee,

isn't it interesting how the mind works?"

7. Always go from least intrusive to most intrusive! Some of

the techniques I'll show involve getting people to picture

things inside their heads in a certain way. This is

something you always want to do LAST, when they are already

hot and horny and utterly fascinated by you, NEVER FIRST!!!

8. Never resist what a woman offers -- turn it around and use

it as leverage! Any response a woman makes to your moves

can be turned on her and used to get what you want, if you

relax and DON'T ARGUE or ASK FOR EXPLANATIONS. We'll show

you later how to utterly destroy a woman's objections and

bullshit, using this principle.

9. Challenge is where the fun is!! What isn't yet working is

the doorway to new power and understanding!!!

10. The less initial attraction she has for you, or the less

sexual a person she is, the more you'll have to rely on

juicing up her body feelings to get her to fuck you! You'll

find that every woman varies; some just need the intense

connection states to be pushed over the line; others you'll

need to add in sub-modalities and anchoring; and still

others will need an intense state description before they

pounce on you!! Watch what responses you are getting and

respond accordingly!

11. Use softeners liberally. By doing so, you'll be able to

introduce the wildest topics, as the most intrusive

questions, and still seem like a respectful, normal guy,

instead of a sex-crazed mind-fucker.

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Chapter One Review and Exercises:

Circle the right answer:

1. A smart Speed Seducer never plans the states he wants a

woman to experience. (True) (False)

2. Get a girl very hot and bothered first, and then create a

deep connection (True) (False)

3. Love is:

(A) All you need, yeah, yeah, yeah.

(B) A sweet mystery of life that no one can explain.

(C) A result of a internal mental process that can be

recreated if properly described.

(D) None of the above.

4. On a date the most important thing to think about is:

(A) Where to take her.

(B) Yourself.

(C) If she smells real bad down there.

(D) None of the above.

5. In the spaces below, list some of the states you'd like a

very hot woman to experience with you:

(A) absolute

(B) total

(C) incredible

(D) extreme

6. Nice guys usually only get women to experience states of:

(A) drooling lust

(B) mild comfort and enjoyment

(C) utter fascination

(E) None of the above

7. Speed Seduction works by:

(A) The magic of believing and thinking big

(B) Crossing your fingers and hoping the Good Fairy What

Sits In The Sky will grant your every wish

(C) Begging and pleading for a girl like you

(D) Deciding what states you want her to experience and

then skillfully describing and linking those states to

you.

8. Ross Jeffries is:

(A) The greatest genius the 20th Century has ever seen

(B) A veritable God among men and your one, true, guru

(C) Going to fuck your girlfriend if you give him half a

chance

(D) All of the above

9. A good example of a softener would be:

(A) Hey slut, mind if I ask you something?

(B) Do you mind if I ask you how much you like to give

head?

(C) When I'm getting to know someone, it's important to me

that I find out what they really want out of life. So,

if you don't mind my asking, what's really important

to you about ...

(D) Would you mind if I talked really dirty and suggestive

to you for a second?

"I never hit a woman with her clothes on!" ... Sean David Morton

Chapter 2

DO YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES TO BE A SPEED SEDUCER?

If you can answer "YES" to the following questions, then you can

qualify to be a great Speed Seducer. Obviously you have an

interest in Speed Seduction or you wouldn't be reading this

book. So here comes the real questions:

1. Do you sincerely wish to be able to seduce tons of

gorgeous woman, and have the power to create states of

overwhelming lust and attraction in the hottest women

around?

2. Do you want to start seeing these results in a matter

of 2 or 3 weeks, or are you just reading for

curiosity?

3. Are you willing to suspend your disbelief and try

something new, FIRST, before you decide if it's

possible?

4. Are you willing to give about half an hour a day, for

the next 21 days, training in Speed Seduction, if it

means a lifetime of power, confidence and astonishing

success with the hottest women you can imagine?

If you answered "YES" to these four questions, you are well on

your way.

You see, the first requirement for greatness in anything, in any

walk of life is ...

THE RIGHT ATTITUDE!!!

With the right attitude you can turn around virtually any

challenging area of your life and transform it into a TRIUMPH!!!

Without the right attitude, even the best of tools are just

useless deadweight.

The second requirement is KNOWING WHAT TO DO!! I will supply you

with that. I'll take you by the hand and lead you step by step

until you get so good at this you can make up your own stuff,

test it in the real world, and then send it to me for future

additions to this book!

But no one ... and I mean NO ONE, can make you have that

attitude. You just have to decide that this is it! No more

living a mediocre life. No more just getting by when it comes to

women! You want more than that. You deserve more than that. And,

most important ...

YOU WILL DO WHAT IT TAKES AND PAY THE PRICE TO GET MORE THAN

THAT!!!

Now listen: Speed Seduction is designed to work. But, the first

few times you try it, you might stumble a bit. That's normal.

That's how we learn to do anything. (And don't feel bad because

I stumbled for about a year in order to develop this into a

science so you won't have to stumble much at all!)

And a further thing to consider: even when you get very good at

these skills, sometimes, for whatever reason, you might run into

a string of girls that you just get nowhere with.

It isn't your fault. It's not that you're doing anything at all

wrong. It's just that ...

SOME GIRLS ARE WALKING AROUND DEAD INSIDE!

You see, you can't get blood from a stone, money from a broke

person, and you can't get passion from a frigid, cold, turned-

off pussy. In order to get her to remember states she's

experienced before, and link them up with you, she has to have

experienced them before at some time in her life.

Other girls are just so fucked up in the head, they aren't worth

playing with!

But that's really not important. What's important is this: Are

you willing to go through the first few times of not quite

getting it, or running into some ice-queens, in order to MASTER

THESE SKILLS and enjoy a lifetime of fun with incredible women?

You see, in a sense, I'd like you to become like a pit bull when

it comes to mastering the skills of Speed Seduction.

What does a pit bull do, once it grabs hold of something? It

doesn't let go.

No sir. It'll hang on even when that something (or someone)

weights 10 times as much!! You can shake it, and slam it, and

try to pry it off, but once it gets its jaws around you ...

IT AIN'T LETTING GO!!!

Funny enough, but once you get this "pit bull" attitude, you can

actually start to relax, loosen up, and enjoy the experience

because you know that no matter what happens, you'll learning

something you can use the next time out!! Paradoxically, that's

when you start to win!! (Note: always look for paradoxes in

life; there is tremendous power in paradox!)

So, to help you get this "pit bull" attitude, I'd like to put

this book down and think a few minutes about what mastering

Speed Seduction will do for you. Think of the kind of life it

will let you enjoy with the kind of people you'd like to be

with, and what it will mean as far as the way you feel about

yourself, day after day, every day, when you've mastered it.

The other attitude you need to master, to get REALLY good at

Speed Seduction is that ...

BEING WITH YOU IS THE BEST POSSIBLE CHOICE ANY WOMAN CAN

MAKE!!!

See, if you come at the world with a sense of neediness, chances

are the world is going to slap your hand. But if, however horny

you might be, you really believe that you can please that woman

like no one else (and trust me, once you know how to create

those emotional highs for her using Speed Seduction, you'll see

how true that is!), then, then, then my friend she is going to

sense it and is going to ...

BEG TO HAVE WHAT YOU'VE GOT!!!

Finally, as a great Speed Seducer, you have to be willing to be

a little outrageous, to step outside your normal bounds, to go

out and CREATE YOUR OPPORTUNITIES!!! If for example, you see a

woman you'd like to meet, but she's walking in the opposite

direction, do you think, "Oh well. My timing's lousy? If only

she were going my way!".

No. Not if you're a Speed Seducer. A Speed Seducer takes one

look, decides to go for it, and then he turns around and ...

HE'S AFTER THAT WOMAN LIKE STINK ON SHIT!!!!!

Ah, the power of creative outrageousness! Now, will all women

appreciate your sense of adventure? Probably not. But look,

don't worry about scaring off the meek one. Just focus on ...

ATTRACTING THE ONES WITH A ZEST FOR LIFE!!!!!

Let's try a different metaphor. The Average Frustrated Chump is

a sensible economy sedan. The Speed Seducer in his approach to

women and life in general is ...

A NITRO-BURNING FUNNY CAR!!!!

'Nuff Said.

A WORD ABOUT "MISTAKES"

Every experience is simply an opportunity to learn, expand and

grow. There are no failures; only feedback. (I know sometimes

"feedback" can feel like "failure".) It's only failure if you

lay down and quit!!! Only you can determine how much power

you're going to give a woman to stop you!!

Chapter Two Review and Exercises:

1.In the space below, list all the benefits you'll get from

mastering Speed Seduction:

2. In the space below, describe what a dull, repulsive,

horrid, frustration filled failure your life will be if you

don't master Speed Seduction:

Chapter 3:

BASIC TOOLS OF SPEED SEDUCTION: EMBEDDED COMMANDS

One of the things you want to do when you use Speed Seduction,

is to get a woman's mind moving in a certain direction without

letting her know that that is what you're doing. Otherwise,

you're going to encounter a lot of resistance, and S-N-A-P goes

the fishing line.

You see, very few people ever want to feel like they are being

manipulated. That's not to say that they can't be manipulated or

don't want to be ... they just don't want to feel that's what's

happening.

Now, one of the basic tools to get anyone moving in the

direction you want are commands. Consider commands to be the

foot-soldier in your army of seduction.

Notice, I'm not talking about directly commanding a woman to do

something. We know that would just get her to resist us. As an

example, if you wanted a woman to feel an attraction to you, you

could, if you were brain dead, try the direct approach by saying

something like, "Debbie, as I talk to you, I command you to feel

very attracted to me!".

Like as not, Debbie would either walk away or slap you and then

walk away.

No. What you want to do is embed the command inside of a

sentence, so that it has the effect you want, without her

resisting.

In the above example, you could embed the command "FEEL VERY

ATTRACTED", by saying something like, "You know, some people

find, as they listen to someone who's very fascinating, that

they can FEEL VERY ATTRACTED, Debbie."

In this case, it seems like you're just talking about people in

general, but her unconscious mind picks it up and applies it to

her.THIS IS THE START OF YOUR MOVING HER IN ANY DIRECTION YOU

WANT HER TO GO!!!

THE IMPORTANCE OF TONALITY

It's important to understand that a command isn't just a matter

of wording, but the tone of voice you use.

In the English language, we have basically three kinds of

sentences:

1. Statements

2. Questions

3. Commands

A statement is uttered with an even tonality. "John walked

across the room."

A question ends with an up turn in tonality. "Who walked across

the room?"

A question ends with a down turn in tonality. "John ... walk

across the room!" Make sure when you give your commands that you

pause and then drop your tonality downward.

Weasel Phrases: Your Command Delivery Vehicle

Ok. There are many ways to embed commands in your language so a

woman's unconscious mind hears and obeys, but she doesn't catch

on consciously to what you're doing.

My favorite set-ups are what I call Weasel Phrases. Here are the

most important and useful Weasel Phrases that will have you

getting the hottest babes eager for your rod in minutes!! We'll

use each one to embed the command, "feel incredibly turned on".

1. When you ... "When you" presupposes that the woman is going

to do the thing or experience the state you describe, so

it's no longer open to debate or doubt. "When you feel

incredibly turned on do you find yourself compelled to act

on it?

2. What would it be like if ... This weasel phrase is in

effect, a command for the person to imagine the condition

or occurrence named or described after it. "What would it

be like if you were to feel incredibly turned on ?"

3. A person can ... By talking about a "person" it deflects

any resistance on the part of the woman, since you really

aren't talking about her. "A person can fell incredibly

turned on, talking with someone they really, really like!"

4. If you were to ... This is one of my favorite Weasel

Phrases!! By saying, "if" it deflects resistance while

directing the woman to imagine the experience, condition,

feeling or situation you are describing. "If you were to

feel incredibly turned on, do you think you might feel

compelled to act on it?" (There's a second command hidden

in that last sentence. Can you spot what it is?)

5. As you ... This phrase assumes the woman will do the

behavior or undergo the condition you describe. "As you

feel incredibly turned on, can you feel how excited you're

getting?"

6. It's not necessary to ... An example of one of my super-

weasel patterns, negation, which we'll get into later. By

saying it isn't necessary, it eliminates any resistance,

since you're saying they don't really have to do it (even

though they will!). "It's not necessary to feel incredibly

turned on, as you listen carefully to what I say!"

7. You really shouldn't ... Another negation pattern. Since

you're saying they "shouldn't", its not like you're trying

to get them to do anything, aren't you? "You really

shouldn't feel incredibly turned on!!".

8. You might find ... Useful as the start of an intensifying

chain of phrases. It implies that they are going to

experience what you describe as something that just

happens, so it's not like you're commanding them to do it!!

"You might find as you feel incredibly turned on", it could

lead to your acting on it!

9. To the point where ... This phrase connects one thing your

victim is experiencing with the next thing you want them to

experience, so it's useful both as a connector and an

amplifier. "You might find those pictures start to get

bigger and brighter to the point where you feel incredibly

turned on!".

10.Invite you to notice ... This has the same effect as "you

might find" because it implies that what you describe is

going to happen. Plus, "invite" as pleasant connotations of

it being voluntary and polite! Ha! Super-manipulation, good

buddy! "And I invite you to notice, how the warmth of my

voice, can allow you to feel incredibly turned on!"

11. How surprised would you be to ... This implies that the

event you describe is certainly going to happen, and the

only question is how surprised she'll be by it! One of my

absolute favorite weasel phrases, an example is: "How

surprised will you be to find that you can feel incredibly

turned on?

Wow! Aren't those just great? Are you starting to feel

incredibly turned on yet? Whether you are or you aren't,

remember that using these basic building blocks, you'll be able

to create virtually any and all states you want to, very

rapidly, in the women you really desire.

Now, let's jump up a level in power. When you combine the Weasel

Phrase with a command verb, like "get", "become", "experience",

"remember", etc., and then tack on the state, process or

experience you want her to have, then ... presto! You've got

your embedded command.

In fact, the formula is:

Weasel Phrases + Command Verbs + States, Processes or

Experiences = Embedded Commands

(Example: What's it like when you become incredibly turned

on?)

See? Actually it's quite simple. Practice a bit and you'll soon

get the hang of it!!

Chapter Three Review and Exercises:

1. In the English language, a command ends with a:

(A) Up turn in tonality

(B) Down turn in tonality

(C) Even tonality

2. The purpose of using embedded commands is:

(A) Get a woman irritated and pissed off

(B) Increasing her resistance to you

(C) Move her mind in the direction you want it to go,

without seeming to be intruding or ordering in any way

3. Weasel phrases are used:

(A) To let a woman know you are manipulating her

(B) To set up an embedded command

(C) To show a woman how clever you are

4. From the chart below mix and match Weasel Phrases, Command

Verbs, and States, Processes or Experiences (SPE's) to form

your own embedded commands:

Weasel Phrases Command Verbs S.P.E.

When you ... become very horny

If you were to ... think about fantastic sex

How does it feel

when ... get in love

What's it like when

you ... remember having great sex

A person can ... experience fascination

As you ... have absolute lust

It's not necessary to ... forget incredibly

turned on

You really shouldn't ... fall all about him

You don't have to ... know someone's

attractive

Chapter 4:

THE POWER OF "HAVE YOU EVER"

Ok. Last chapter we had a look at weasel phrases. In this

chapter, we're going to look at the power of the super-weasel

phrase "HAVE YOU EVER". You're going to be seeing this phrase

pop up time and again in the patterns I'll show you, so as you

can see it's quite important.

Now remember, when you set out to influence, control and direct

a woman's thinking, you don't want to make it seem like that's

what you are doing, or else S-N-A-P goes that fishing line. This

is why we seldom, if ever, give a direct command, because she

might resist it.

Here's where the super-weasel phrase "HAVE YOU EVER" comes into

play. Let's say I wanted a woman to experience a state of total

fascination with me (Fascination is a good place to start with

... it's not quite as intense as total sexual arousal, but sets

a woman up for that and anything else you want).

I could walk right up to her, introduce myself and then try to

directly command her to feel fascinated by saying something

like, "I command you to go inside yourself, remember a time when

you felt totally fascinated by a man, and then feel that way

about me!".

It's not too likely that that would work.

However, saying something like this can, has and almost

certainly will work (notice the embedded commands, which I've

capitalized and put in boldface!)

"Let me ask you a question. Have you ever been totally

fascinated with someone? Like maybe as you were there, looking

at him, and you started to LISTEN CAREFULLY, it was like his

voice just seemed to wrap itself around you, and the rest of

your environment just disappeared, and your entire world,

everything you saw, became what was right in front of you? And

anything he described, you found that you could just PICTURE IT

CLEARLY? So you know, if he were to talk about a romantic walk,

on a moonlight beach, with your perfect partner, you could SEE

YOURSELF there with him, just enjoying what that would be like?"

Now, once you've got her fascinated, you'll want to move on from

there to other states, but the point is that the fascination is

now there to set her up for virtually anything. She won't be

able to look away from you or see or notice anyone else in the

room. I don't care if the best looking man in North America

walked in booky-butt naked ... you're the only one she's going

to see. And since you dropped in a suggestion that she clearly

picture anything you suggest, you've set her up to be an

excellent trance subject, even if she normally wouldn't be!!

Ha!!

This all works because the phrase "HAVE YOU EVER" only seems

like a question. Actually, it is a COMMAND!! It's a COMMAND to

go inside your memory, and find a time when you experienced the

thing that the person who is talking to you is describing. But

people don't consciously perceive it as a command, so they don't

resist. This sets them up for anything!!

Ok? Does that make sense? Here's the general formula for using

"HAVE YOU EVER" and then I'll go on to demonstrate some specific

applications:

1. Think of the state you'd like her to experience.

2. Start out by asking, "HAVE YOU EVER" and then name the

state you want her to experience.

3. Begin to describe what it would be like to experience that

state, and use this as an opportunity to drop in some

embedded commands that would help her to experience that

state.

4. Really get her into feeling of what that's like.

5. Link it to yourself.

Ok? So now, let's show you another specific: getting her to feel

a state of instantaneous, incredible connection to you!!!

Why Creating A Sense of Incredible Connection is Important

I realize I'm repeating myself here, but this is CRITICAL, so

listen up: for most women, creating a sense of incredible

connection and bonding is a required step before you get on to

the sexual arousal stuff, and in fact, can be the introduction

to a good sexual arousal pattern. You might find that this sense

of connection is so important to women that simply generating

it, without doing any of the more sexual stuff, is sufficient by

itself to get her to go totally ga ga over you.

You see, for most of us guys, sex is a matter of dumping our

loads. We'd do it with rocks, trees, mud, anything.

For most women (at least most uninfected, non-diseased women)

sex is very largely an expression of an emotional connection.

So, here are some great patterns to get you started. Here's one

I like to use right away, when I first meet a woman, say at a

party or bar.

After making her laugh and introducing myself, and maybe a

minute or two of fluff talk, I launch into the following:

You: Have you ever felt an INSTANTANEOUS connection with

someone? (Point to yourself) Like maybe as you were

there, looking at them, and you started to LISTEN

INTENTLY, it was like there was a cord of LIGHT

(gesture from your solar plexus to hers) going from

you to them? And as that cord began to GLOW, WITH THE

WARMTH of that connection, maybe you were even able to

IMAGINE A TIME IN YOUR FUTURE (gesture either to your

left or to your right ... at this point it really

doesn't matter), say six months from now, still

FEELING THAT SENSE OF INCREDIBLE CONNECTION, and

LOOKING BACK ON TODAY (point back to you) as having

been the start of it?

Them: Oh yeah ...

You: See, I think it's so funny how some people can JUST DO

THAT and LET IT HAPPEN INSTANTANEOUSLY (snap your

fingers) because for me it takes longer. But I do find

that during the course of an evening, as you REALLY

LISTEN to someone (point to yourself), and you START

TO RECOGNIZE those values and qualities in them that

you hold so dearly for yourself ... (pause) ... WITH

ME that's when you can MAKE THAT CONNECTION and really

FEEL THAT GROWING BOND.

Get the picture? See how we start out naming the state we want

her to experience and then help her good old unconscious mind

along by describing how to do it?

Of course, this general pattern works for the other great super

weasel phrase ...

"WHAT'S IT LIKE WHEN?"

(This, along with it's close relatives, "What would it be like

if" and "What would it feel like if" all work the same.)

Here's a good, "What's it like when" to use as a horny message

to leave on a woman's answering machine. Only do this AFTER

you've gone out at least once, or already got her hot and horny

on your first meeting.

"What's it like when you're so attracted to the sound of a man's

voice, that whenever you find yourself really listening, it's

like the warmth of that voice just starts to wrap itself around

you, and spread all through your body, maybe to the point where

you find yourself thinking about being with him in a ... mmmmmmm

... special way, in a way that would make you both feel ...

mmmmmmm, you know? So much so that as those pictures in your

mind get bigger, and bigger and more intense, and those feelings

... mmm ... intensify you could just experience an overwhelming

desire, a desire to be with him ... to the point where you just

had to pick up the phone, and invite him over?"

Did you notice now this pattern totally directs her internal

feelings and pictures by describing them in detail, and

therefore directing her to focus in on how it would feel? A good

understanding for you to have about any form of persuasion or

influence is:

When Skillfully Done, There Isn't A Bit Of Difference Between

Describing and Directing!!!

Chapter Four Review and Exercises

1. "Have you ever" works because:

(A) It acts as a command, while seeming to be a question

(B) It causes people to enter the state or undergo the

experience you name after the phrase "have you ever"

(C) It sets up a description of the process or state you

want people to experience

(D) All of the above

2. If you want a woman to get hot and horny:

(A) Order her to feel that way

(B) Ask her, "what's it like when you're incredibly

attracted to somebody?" and then go on to describe

that process and link it to yourself.

(C) Tell her all the reasons why your a great guy and how

lucky she is to be giving you some.

(D) Show her a picture of Ross Jeffries.

3. By properly describing a state of experience, you are in

fact:

(A) Wasting time you could be using to pressure her into

sex

(B) Wasting time because you could be ordering her flat

out to feel that way

(C) Directing her to undergo that state or experience

4. If you're going to describe an intense feeling state you

should:

(A) Only talk about body feelings

(B) Use pictures and sounds, as a lead in to body

feelings, which you then go on to describe and amplify

(C) Start with body feelings and end with pictures

(D) Use lots of foul, dirty language to get her hot!

Chapter 5:

THE POWER OF NEGATION

It takes all types to run this world, and this next super-weasel

pattern will help you deal with a type of woman who might

otherwise drive you bonko! You know the type: someone who has to

disagree or argue with everything you say. The technical term is

"mismatcher" or "polarity responder", but the practical term is:

bitch.

Anyway, negation allows you to play off her natural tendency to

negate or gainsay everything that comes out of your mouth. It

works by putting the word "not" or "don't" in front of the

suggestion you want to embed. ("Shouldn't" "don't" and "can't"

also can work just as well!). This is a perfect response to a

woman who is resisting you by saying, "We really shouldn't be

doing this!".

You response, using negation would be something like: (can you

pick out the embedded commands? In this example, I've put them

in italics)

"You're right. I shouldn't be pulling up your top. I shouldn't

be sucking on your incredible breasts. And you don't have to

feel the incredible pleasure you aren't experiencing right now!"

As Bugs Bunny would say, ain't I a stinker?

Would you like to see a combination of quotes and negation?

What's that you say? You would?

Ok. Try this:

My friend was shocked the other night, when a woman walked right

up to him, looked him in the eye and said, "it's not important

that you imagine me going down on you all night long!"

Can you see how these patterns can work together to multiply

their power? Of course, as I said to a friend of mine "you don't

have to imagine yourself six months from now, already having

mastered these patterns, and looking back on today as having

been the start of it!"

(Special Note: Chapters 6, 7 and 8 all deal with what I call

accelerators: patterns designed to create states of intense lust

and arousal! Use with caution, and only after creating those

wonderful states of absolute comfort and total, timeless

connection!!!)

Chapter 6:

USING THE POWER OF QUOTES AND OTHER STATE ACCELERATORS AND

INTENSIFIERS

Ok. Let's say you've already managed to capture a woman's

attention and directed her into a state of fascination, intense

connection, or something of that sort. Now you want to move

things along by getting her hot and horny ... moving her into a

state of intense arousal.

Now, there are several tools to do that. One of my absolute

favorites is the pattern called quotes.

Listen: quotes is not that unfamiliar to you already. Remember

when you were a little kid, and saying "fuck" was a big deal,

because it use to get you punished big time?

Personally, I used to get my mouth washed out with soap, so I

hatched a scheme. Rather than say "fuck" directly, I'd tell my

mom what some other foul-mouthed little kid down the block said.

That way, it wasn't like I was saying it ... I was just

repeating something I'd heard.

So I boldly strode into the kitchen, approached dear old Mother,

and said, "Mom! Mom! Tommy down the street said, "fuck" and

"cocksucker" !" (Hey, I figured, since I was going for it, I

might as well go for it!)

Of course Mom just said, "Nice try, kid" and slapped me silly,

but that's not the point. The point is, with a little subtlety,

you can use quotes as an accelerator or amplifier for the states

of arousal you want a woman in.

Let's say for example you'd like for a woman to imagine you

going down on her and her feeling really hot and horny. Those

are pretty good pictures for a woman to be running in her mind,

and feelings to be having when she's with you, wouldn't you

agree?

Of course you would! So here's how to do it! After a general

discussion of how the mind works, and using that to get her in

states of intense fascination, connection, etc.,, you'd say

something like this: (oh, by the way ... notice the embedded

commands are in boldface)

You: Some guys are so crude. I mean, I was raised to be at

least a little respectful, but you wouldn't believe

what I saw this dude do the other night!

Her: What?

You: He walks right up to this girl, looks her right in the

eye and says, "Can you imagine me going down on you

all night long, and you getting so hot and turned on

that you were begging for it?"

Her: God!

You: I mean, can you believe that? Did he actually expect

her to picture that all night long, and even become

obsessed with those kind of thoughts?

Now, if you really want to play with her noggin' you could keep

going from there. You could really get her dripping in her seat

by saying something else like:

You: Now, see, if I was a girl, and someone tried something

like that on me ... I'd play right back with 'em. I'd

look 'em in the eye and say, "Oh yeah? Well, you know

that feeling you get just before you have an orgasm?

When the pleasure is just like building and pulsing

and pounding through your body? If you could imagine

that feeling, could you feel it right now?

Isn't that great? Remember, quotes, like the other accelerator

patterns I'll show you, should generally be used after you've

established that sense of connection, etc. You can embed

virtually any weasel pattern, phrase or series of commands

inside quotes and keep it totally safe, since it isn't like

you're saying it to her. You're only quoting what someone else

said!

Understand also that you can combine quotes with virtually any

other pattern I teach, if for some reason you don't feel

comfortable being direct. QUOTES DOES NOT HAVE TO BE LIMITED TO

THE "SEXUAL AROUSAL" PATTERNS!!!!

So here's the general formula for using quotes:

1. Think of what it is you'd like to say to a woman, but

couldn't say to her directly.

2. Start off by telling her something like, "You wouldn't

believe what I heard this person say to someone! He walked

right up to her and:

3. Stick in what it is you'd like to say.

4. Stick in a command to make her continue to think about it.

Simple, yes? Later, we'll show you how to integrate the use of

quotes into other patterns, but now let's go to another

accelerator which is:

TALKING ABOUT ANOTHER PERSON'S EXPERIENCE

Now, the difference here between this and quotes, is that with

quotes, you're quoting what someone else said. With this

pattern, you're talking about another person's EXPERIENCE as a

way of getting your target hot and bothered.

Example:

What's the feeling of realizing you're really attracted to

someone? My friend Kim was telling me that her roommate has

this best friend, Dawn. And when Dawn starts to notice that

growing attraction, it happens in a certain way.

Like first, as she looks at the guy, and starts to REALLY

PAY ATTENTION, she just becomes aware of certain things ...

like the rhythm of her breathing, and the beating of her

heart, and the outline of his face ... so as she becomes

aware of all these things, one particular feature of his

face just starts to rivet her attention, so she becomes

totally absorbed in the connection taking place ... and as

that's all happening, it's like the warmth of his voice,

the deep rich warmth of it, just starts to penetrate her

consciousness, and spread all through her body, and as her

heart beats faster and her breathing increases, that warmth

just heats up into a fire, a fire spreading through her

chest and down through her belly, a fire pounding and

pulsating all through her, down to where she really longs

to have it go, until that desire for him just BECOMES

UTTERLY OVERWHELMING, and she just SURRENDERS to it

completely.

Now, notice we aren't asking or demanding or suggesting that she

directly experience all this. But by describing the experience

of another (or even ourselves) she has to undergo the experience

for herself!!! And please bear in mind we set her up to accept

all this by FIRST creating states of intense connection!!!

So now you see how to use either quotes, or describe another

person's experience to get women into the juiciest states of

dripping wet arousal. Go use it on someone TONIGHT!!!

Chapter Six Review and Exercises:

1. In the space below, write your own quotes pattern, using

the commands, "imagine having amazing sex with me" and "get

incredibly hot and horny":

2. Pick any 3 weasel phrases from Chapter 3, and in the space

below, construct a quotes pattern for each one of them:

3. Explain the difference between quotes and describing

another person's experience:

Chapter 7:

MORE ACCELERATORS: THE POWER OF SUB-MODALITIES

What better way to get a woman hot and bothered for you than to

have her picturing mind-blowing sex with you? We've seen how to

use embedded commands to get her to do this ... now in this

chapter I'll show you how to do it in some special ways that

will tremendously magnify the power and vividness of those

fantasies so she becomes utterly obsessed and compelled to act

on them. Be warned ... this is really dynamite!!

Watch Where You're Stepping: Thoughts Are Present

In my first book, "How To Get The Women You Desire Into Bed", I

pointed out that there's an important distinction in how people

make mental pictures. That distinction was that people can

either see themselves in an image, or they can see what they

actually saw at the time they had the experience. (Typically,

you don't see yourself when you actually experience something

unless you walk around with a mirror in front of you all day

long!)

Now I'd like to teach you an even more important distinction

which is this: people subjectively arrange their mental pictures

in different locations in their head. This distinction also

applies to where people seem to hear the internal voices in

their heads.

An Important Exercise To Help You Understand

Let's give an example of the power of where you put your

pictures in your mind: stop a minute and think of someone you

really, really like. Someone you're very fond of. As you do

this, and you see their image in your mind, take your finger and

point to where you seem to see that image.

If this is a little hard for you, just imagine your mind is like

a mental movie screen. Take note of where on the screen the

image is. Up? Down? To the left? The right? Where the fucking

hell is that image, bb? And, by the way, how big is it?

Ok .. now ... think of someone you don't like at all. Someone

who, if you could, you'd sentence to spend eternity as Roseanne

Barr's bicycle seat. Where do you see that person's image? How

big is it?

Now ... as you think of both images at the same time you'll

really begin to notice that they are in different places in your

mind, subjectively speaking. Notice what happens now as you try

in vain to move the picture of the person you don't like into

the same location as the picture of the person you do.

It doesn't want to go, does it? It's just like something is

fighting it.

Now why might all this be useful? Why might you want to know

where a woman puts her pictures of falling in love? Why might

you want to know where a woman puts her pictures of men who no

longer mean anything to her? Hmm? Could it be that if you found

out where in her mind a woman pictures falling in love, that you

might want to somehow sneak a picture of you and her together in

that place, doing nasty things, and then rig it up so that she

sees those images obsessively?

Could it maybe also possibly be the case that if she's already

dating someone, you'd like to be able to put his picture in the

location of someone she's forgotten all about and lost all

feeling for? If I could really show you how to do all that,

would you mind that I ended that last sentence with a

preposition, something my seventh grade grammar teacher Mrs.

Edge would have slapped me for? (Whoops ... I did it again!)

How To Find Out Where She Puts Her Pictures And What To Do With

That Information Once You've Got It!!!

The best way to find out where a woman puts her mental pictures,

is, of course, to ask. You should do this as part of an overall

discussion of how interesting the mind is. Try a dialogue like

this.

You: Did you know your mind puts pictures in different

places, according to how you feel about them?

Her: What do you mean?

You: Well, look: think of someone who you really, really

like alot. Ok?

Her: Ok.

You: And now, if you were to just imagine your mind to be

like a giant movie screen, and if you were to point to

where on the screen you see the picture of that

person, point to where you see it.

Her: (pointing) Ok.

You: Good. Now, if you think about someone who you don't

like at all, or someone who you just think of as

neutral, point to where you see that.

Her: (pointing) Ok.

You: Good. Now, watch ... take the picture of the person

you don't like, and try to move it into the same place

as the picture of the person you do really like. It

doesn't want to go, does it?

Alright. Get it? That's how you get her started. You can then

move on to getting her to point to where she falls in love,

forgets people, etc..

A Very, Very Important Note:

Now ... bear something else in mind. Some women just aren't that

effected by the pictures they have in their heads. Even if you

do get them PICTURING sexual acts, it still doesn't get them all

that turned on. For them, sounds and feelings are most powerful.

So you can even have her hearing sounds in a way that gets her

REALLY HOT, using sub-modalities. To do so, you'd say something

like this:

You: Ok. Point to that space where you fall in love. Great. Now,

as you THINK ABOUT THAT SPACE AS I TALK TO YOU ... as you ALLOW

MY VOICE TO COME FROM THAT SPACE, I just invite you to NOTICE

HOW THE DEEP RICH WARMTH of that voice just starts to penetrate

your thoughts, and start to spread all through you, and that

sure feels great, doesn't it?

Now, later in this book we will show you some patterns that do

just that, and more, but for now, here are some very important

points to keep in mind:

1. Moving people's mental pictures is very, very powerful but

also EXTREMELY INTRUSIVE!!!! It should only be done once

you have really "snuck up on the fish" and the fish is

already in a state of wanting to jump into the boat !!!

2. When you move a woman's mental pictures it is almost never

advisable to directly command her to move them. So, don't

say something like: "Now, take that picture of me, and put

it right there in that place in your mind where you fall in

love!!" ERRRRRRRRRRRR!!!! WRONG!!!!

This would be more like it: "You know, sometimes I find that,

when you spend time with someone, and you really start to

experience that incredible bond, and feel totally comfortable,

you can just start to (point to where she falls in love) picture

being together with them in a special way, in that special place

in your mind!"

By the way, can you find the embedded commands? (Experience that

incredible bond ... feel totally comfortable ...)

3. When you move a woman's mental picture's it's often

advisable to add in a post-hypnotic suggestion to keep

those pictures from moving back!! So, for example, let's

say you've done a pattern we'll show you in a later

chapter, that gets her to put her current boyfriend's

picture into a location that makes him seem completely

unimportant. To prevent it from popping back you'd say

something like:

Now, you may be surprised to find how common everyday things,

like flipping the light switch, or walking in your front door,

or stepping into the shower can remind you to keep those

pictures down there! And the more they struggle and fight to

come back, the smaller and darker they get ... to the point

where you just can't even see them anymore, ever again!

Notice here we've linked what we want her mind to do to some

common, everyday event. If we linked it to every time Haley's

comet passes by or the Mets win the World Series we'd get

nowhere.

Chapter 7 Review and Exercises

1. Find a friend (male or female) and elicit from them the

location in their mind of someone they like and someone

they don't. (Tell them it's all part of a psychology

experiment you read about in a book) Note the differences

in where they see these images. Then try and get them to

move the picture of the person they like to the same place

as the picture of the person they don't, note the results.

2. Now ... ask the same person from exercise one to think of

one of those two people but DON'T tell you which one it is.

Your job will be to guess by watching where his eyes go as

he thinks. Almost always his eyes will go in the same place

he pointed originally. So if he or she pointed up and to

the left when as the place where they put someone they

like, chances are that's where they will look when they

think of that person again.

Chapter 8:

MORE ACCELERATORS; DIRECTIVE AND CONVERSATIONAL ANCHORING

Have you ever heard the expression, "Don't re-invent the

wheel?". Well the same idea applies strongly in Speed Seduction.

You see, building states of fascination, arousal, lust, etc. can

be done very quickly; no doubt about that. But once you've built

those states, why not make sure you have a way to turn them on

again any time you want to, without having to go throw building

them all over again? In other words, if you initial investment

of time in getting a woman in all these states is, say, 20 to 30

minutes, wouldn't it be great to be able to get her back into

those states with a one word or a touch, or even a glance, in

about one second?

Now that would really be Speed Seduction, wouldn't it?

Your basic tool for doing this is ANCHORING, and the principle

of anchoring is simple: if you get a person in a certain state,

and then combine that state with a touch or a sound, the

person's brain will associate that state with that sound or

touch, so later, if you produce that sound or touch, the person

will go back into that state.

There are two basic types of anchoring.

Two Types Of Anchoring: Directive Demonstration and Non-

Directive, Conversational

Some of the very best "Speed Seduction" patterns are

conversational: with these, you don't ever tell her to do

anything, she just does it automatically by virtue of listening

to you.

Other patterns (in the minority, but still powerful, to be

sure!) do require that you direct her to do things. But even

here it's not so much ordering as it is asking her to

participate so you can demonstrate to her some interesting

principle of the mind.

You can anchor using either one of these frames of doing things.

Conversational Anchoring:

One of the best and simplest and hardest to detect ways to

anchor is to talk to someone about a certain state of mind, as

we've shown you how to do using your favorite weasel patterns,

HAVE YOU EVER or WHAT'S IT LIKE WHEN? Then, once you've finished

describing that state or experience and the person is really

experiencing it, you just reach over and touch them, and as you

do so, you say, "Can you feel that (pause for a second) would be

a wonderful experience to have?".

Now ... let me explain this for a second. It's using something

we call ambiguity. You see, when you ask the person, "can you

feel that" as you touch them, at first their mind thinks you

mean "can you feel this touch I'm giving you?" and of course

they instantly think, "yes". But then, when you go on, after

that split second pause, to add in, "would be a wonderful

experience to have?" they then become a bit confused, and go

back and associate all those wonderful feelings to that touch

you just gave them. The link has instantly been made,

unconsciously, so there's nothing they can do but feel those

feelings whenever you touch them.

Directive, Demonstration Anchoring

Sometimes, the context of the pattern you're running allows you

to be a little more direct. Sometimes, for example, I'll explain

to a woman a little bit about what I do, and I'll use that

opportunity to demonstrate (and install: remember there's no

difference between description and directing, when it's done

correctly?) anchoring on her. Keep in mind that I've started out

talking to her about other things to peak her curiosity and that

I don't start by demonstrating anchoring ... that's too intense

and too intrusive to start. (Remember the idea of a cake recipe

... everything in the right order?) Keeping that in mind, you'd

do something like this:

YOU: Can you remember a time when you were feeling ... mmmm

... absolute pleasure in your body? (note here that

your voice tone has to match what you are describing!)

HER: Oh yeah.

YOU: Great ... well, here's what I want you to do. Remember

that time again, and see what you saw, hear what you

heard and feel how it felt. And when those feelings

reach their peak, just wiggle this little finger for

me! (wiggle one of her pinky fingers).

(Watch for the wiggle ... when she gives it, reach

over and touch her on the wrist or arm and say

"PERFECT")

YOU: Great ... now do it again ... see what you saw, hear

what you heard, and feel how it felt ... and when

those feelings reach their peak, wiggle that finger.

(Watch for wiggle, and then repeat the touch and

"PERFECT")

YOU One more time ... (put her through it once more!).

YOU: Good. Now, the theory behind anchoring is, that if you

have someone in an intense state and you combine that

state with a touch, every time you do the touch again

they'll go back into the state. So, if were to say to

you (notice the weasel phrase?), you know, I think

we're having lots of fun talking here. In fact, it's

so much fun, it can just feel PERFECT (reach over and

touch her in the exact same place on wrist or arm),

that sure would be feel great, don't you?

Now, as I've pointed out in my original book, "How To Get The

Women You Desire Into Bed!", once you've got the anchor

established, you can fire it off anytime you want to, or just

keep holding it to keep her in that state. You can further

accelerate the state by using quotes, describing other people's

experiences, or using sub-modalities.

Remember then: the key phrases/steps to anchor are:

Conversational/Non-Directed Anchoring

1. Use "have you ever" or "what's it like when" or "what's the

feeling of" to get her into the state you want to anchor.

2. Describe the state to intensify her experience.

3. As you finish your description, and her state peaks, reach

over and touch her and as you do say, "Can you feel that

... (pause) is an incredible experience to have?

4. Fire off or hold anchor as in Directed Anchoring.

Directive Demonstration Anchoring:

1. Can you remember a time when you were feeling X?

2. Close your eyes. See what you saw, hear what you heard,

feel how it felt.

3. At peak of her pleasure, reach out and touch.

4. Repeat 2 times.

5. Fire off anchor by repeating same touch. Hold it while

talking to her, or let it go and refire it later.

6. Accelerate her state even more using quotes, sub-modalities

or describing other people's experiences.

PRACTICAL APPLICATIONS:

This next section of the book deals with practical, real world

application of all these patterns to the various situations you

are likely to face. Bear in mind that the general sequence that

any good pattern follows, involves these steps:

Step 1: Create a state of intense connection, time distortion,

love, fascination, knowing you forever etc.

Tools to use for this: "Have you ever", "What's it like when"

and other weasel phrases; process descriptions, etc.

Step 2: Create states of arousal and lust by getting her focused

in on pleasurable feelings in her body.

Tools to use for this: anchoring, quotes, sub-modalities,

describing another person's experiences.

Step 3: Put on condom. You're about to get raped!!!

Chapter 9:

PATTERNS FOR POWERFUL CONNECTIONS

Did you ever instantly know that you'd be totally fascinated by

something you were reading? I mean, maybe as you continued to

read it, and notice the shape of the letters, the darkness of

the ink, and the whiteness of the page, it allowed you to GO

INSIDE, and remember a time when learning was easy and fun?

Ha ha ha. Just playing with you.

NOW, as I've said before and probably will continue to repeat,

it's extremely important to first create those states of

POWERFUL connection. When you do so, you'll find that oftentimes

that's enough, that you won't even have to do the sexual stuff.

Just keep in mind that every girl is different. Some are

inherently more suggestible than others; some are naturally

hornier and looser sexually, and would fuck at the drop of a hat

(or condom) in any case!.

Having said all that, let's look at a few really great patterns

for creating those connections, using the incredibly powerful

phenomena of time distortion. You'll see us use time distortion

again in the Boyfriend Destroyer, but right now, let's look at

my favorite, the:

Instantaneous/Timeless Connection Pattern Variation #1

When to use pattern: This pattern far and away works the best

within the first few minutes of meeting her. It's particularly

good for girls who are really into New Age bullshit like

astrology, tarot cards, ESP, UFO's and all that other crap. You

can use it over the phone, in writing, or of course, as it works

best, face to face!

Steps/Tools used: Weasel phrases, embedded commands and time

distortion.

You: Have you ever felt an INSTANTANEOUS connection with

someone? (Point to yourself) Like maybe as you were

there, looking at them, and you started to LISTEN

INTENTLY, it was like there was a cord of LIGHT

(gesture from your solar plexus-to hers) going from

you to them? And as that cord began to GLOW, WITH THE

WARMTH of that connection, maybe you were even able to

IMAGINE A TIME IN YOUR FUTURE (gesture either to your

left or to your right ... at this point it really

doesn't matter), say six months from now, still

FEELING THAT SENSE OF INCREDIBLE CONNECTION, and

LOOKING BACK ON TODAY (point back to you) as having

been the start of it?

Them: Oh yeah...

You: See, I think it's so funny how some people can JUST DO

THAT and LET IT HAPPEN INSTANTANEOUSLY (snap your

fingers) because for me it takes longer. But I do find

that during the course of an evening, as you REALLY

LISTEN to someone (point to yourself), and you START

TO RECOGNIZE those values and qualities in them that

you hold so dearly for yourself ... pause ... WITH ME

that's when you can MAKE THAT CONNECTION and really

FEEL THAT GROWING BOND.

Ok. Look familiar? It should, since we showed you this early on.

But here's a variation to use, because sometimes when you ask if

they've felt an instantaneous connection, they'll say "NO!". So

try this one instead, it's very similar:

Variation #2

Did you ever instantly know you were going to like and trust

someone for a long, long time? (Point to yourself) Like maybe

even though you only knew them a short while, it seemed like you

had known them your whole life, as if there were a timeless

connection between you and them? (gesture to her and then to

you!) I mean, you know that feeling of incredible bonding, when

all the barriers just drop, away and melt and you just feel so

totally comfortable and at ease with them. And it's like maybe

you were even able to imagine a time in your future, say years

from now, still being incredibly connected to this person (point

to yourself again) and looking back on today as having been the

start of it?

I just think that's the neatest thing when a person can GO

INSIDE and INSTANTLY recognize all those qualities and values in

that other person, that LETS THAT CONNECTION TAKE PLACE WITH

SOMEONE ... (pause) ME, it usually takes a bit longer.

Now, I like this variation quite nicely. I also think it would

make a good reply to a woman's personal ad, or even a nice

outgoing voice mail message for those systems where women call

in to listen to you, and then decide if they want to make

contact.

Would you like to see how I'd change the wording to fit that

format? What's that you say ... you would? Ok: here goes, with

...

Variation #3:

Did you ever instantly know you were going to like and trust

someone for a long, long time? Maybe you only knew them for a

short while but it seemed that you had known them your whole

life, as if there were a timeless connection between you and

them? I'm wondering as you read this, if you can remember the

feeling of that, and just how wonderful it was, because

sometimes life has a way of making us remember those things,

right prior to discovering that we can experience those feelings

again with someone.

Me ... well, I don't think that kind of thing can be forced. No

essay or words or video tape can create it (insert her name

here). Words and appearances are only expressions, the vehicles

that contain the essence that moves us. It can only happen

naturally as the expression of an energy between two people, but

when it does ... you know that feeling of incredible bonding,

when all the barriers melt and drop away, and two people come

together, fused into one spiritual essence, the mingling of

energies feeding one to the other, building and increasing and

intensifying, mingling into an expression of aliveness that

words can initiate but never capture fully? It has instead to be

indulged inside your own imagination ... dwelled on, and toyed

with, deep, deep inside you.

Speaking to you as a person who can experience that kind of

connection, just how much can you look forward to enjoying that

with someone who moves you in that way? As you remember what

that would be like, and find those possibilities opening before

you, in such a way that anything else blurs into insignificance,

how powerfully will you feel that urge to call and find out more

about this person who has so moved you, with just words on a

page? As you find yourself wanting to meet with me, realize I

can be reached at()___-____.(<----your number goes

there, dum-dum!)

The Importance of Time Distortion

What these patterns all have in common is, they distort a

woman's sense of time, and make it seem like she's already

fallen for you, and has, in fact, felt that way for some time

already. You see, if someone is resisting you, rather than

trying to break through that resistance, the better thing is

simply to go after it, or before it. Time distortion is an

incredibly powerful weapon in your get laid arsenal, and after

you've pulled it off a few times, you'll look back on learning

it as having been one of the best things that ever happened to

you, realizing that reading this was the start of it. Wasn't it?

Whew! Talk about shifting your time senses around!!!

Other Great Openings For Incredible Connection

Ok. This next pattern doesn't use time distortion, but works

quite powerfully nonetheless. I like it because it's very

conversational, involves little or no directing her to do

anything other than listen, and is about topics that women are

really into and interested in any case!

Attraction Vs. Love

When to use pattern: On the date, or within the first 10 minutes

of meeting her, after making general fluff talk.

Steps/Tools used: Weasel phrases, embedded commands.

You: Have you ever thought about the difference about

between attraction and being in love?

Her: What do you mean?

You: Well, actually I think they take place in different

settings. I mean attraction is what you experience

when you're in the presence of that person, (point to

yourself) and you're looking at them, and you maybe

you think to yourself ... (pause) mmmm. And maybe you

start to have certain ... (pause) thoughts, images and

you know what that feels like, right?

Her: Sure.

You: But falling in love, well I think you do that when

you're not even in that person's presence. I mean, can

you remember a time when you just totally fell for

someone?

Her: Yeah.

You: And as you sit there looking at me, thinking about

what I'm saying, you can remember what it felt like,

right?

Her: Sure.

You: Yeah, but here's how it happened. You spent some time

with that person (gesture to yourself) and then you

went home, and you PICTURE THAT PERSON IN YOUR MIND

(as you do this, draw a frame around your own face!

Ha! This sticks you in there!) right?

Her: Yes.

You: And then, maybe you IMAGINE YOURSELF in all sorts of

situations with this person (point to yourself again)

having lots of fun, and enjoying the kind of feelings

and things you'd like to enjoy with them? Can you

REMEMBER HOW THAT FEELS?

Her: Yeah

You: And then maybe you start to LIST ALL THE QUALITIES

about him you really like: He's so smart, he's so

funny, he's so fun to be with, whatever they were,

whatever the things are you really WANT AND ENJOY THAT

in someone (point to yourself again), right?

Her: Yeah

You: And then you get that feeling, right in the pit of

your stomach, right in your solar plexus, that just

starts to spread out and let you know you really,

REALLY LOVE THIS PERSON? (point to self again) I mean,

can you feel that as I describe it to you?

Her: Oh yeah.

You: And then, here's the kicker ... you START SAYING HIS

NAME OUT LOUD. You start BRINGING IT UP IN

CONVERSATIONS WITH YOUR FRIENDS, and maybe even you

DANCE AROUND THE HOUSE, SINGING IT if you're a real

goof? Right?

Her: Totally.

You: See, I think everything, including falling in love is

a process. And when you DO THAT PROCESS WITH SOMEONE,

(point to yourself) and really LET IT HAPPEN, that's

when the magic takes over, the magic we're really all

looking for. Of course sometimes that can take months,

but the real magic is when it happens INSTANTLY and

you know it right away. That's an incredible feeling,

isn't it?

Now, this pattern is an incredible mind-fuck! What you're doing

is describing the process, obtaining her agreement by asking,

"Right?", making sure she's feeling what it's like, by asking,

"Can you remember how that felt?" or "You remember that feeling,

don't you?",. and then linking it to you by your gestures,

putting the picture frame around your face (damn that's clever

... they NEVER catch that one!), and also just by virtue of her

looking at you as she re-experiences these feelings. Finally,

you're giving her a command at the end of the pattern to

experience it instantly with you!

The other lovely thing about this pattern is, not only will she

feel all those great feelings with you right away, but it

programs her to think about you that way later on. So even

though we're not technically using time distortion, this pattern

does have a delayed reaction effect as well as it's immediate

one.

Chapter 10:

FRIENDS INTO LOVERS PATTERNS

We've all had those situations where girls just want to be,

gulp. "friends". The next four patterns I'll show you are

designed to change that situation, and fast. The first two work

by getting her very sexually aroused; the last two work by

getting her to think about you in very loving ways. All of them

work so well, it's scary, and none of them are detectable, so if

one type (sexual) doesn't work, switch to another.

Sexual Arousal Friends Into Lovers. #1

When to use pattern: These pattern can be used on a woman who

has been a long time friend but shown no sexual interest, or on

a woman with whom you had a few dates way back when but never

got anywhere. It works best in a casual setting, like over

coffee.

Steps/tools used in pattern:

1. Use "have you ever" weasel phrase to set up state

2. Use "quotes" to accelerate state.

3. Use "conversational anchoring" to capture state.

4. As optional step, use describing another person's

experience to really accelerate the state!!

You: Have ever you hung out with someone who you weren't

really attracted to but then, for whatever mysterious

reason, you just suddenly found that you started to

THINK THINGS DIFFERENTLY and SEE THEM IN A WHOLE NEW

WAY? (point to yourself)

I mean, I think sometimes people really don't know

what they want, at least consciously ... but then it's

like YOUR CONSCIOUS MIND DIVES DOWN (gesture with both

hands to indicate diving down) into your unconscious,

and just (gesture with both to indicate coming back

up) BRINGS BACK UP ALL THOSE DESIRES AND IMAGES AND

FEELINGS INTO YOUR MIND.

I mean like my neighbor looks at me one day, and right

out of the blue she takes me by the hands (take her by

the hands) and says, "Can you IMAGINE IF WE WERE

MAKING OUT, And I was kissing exactly the way you like

to be kissed, touching you exactly the way you liked

to be touched, and you were starting to FEEL

INCREDIBLY TURNED ON, so turned on you had to have

me.?"

Can you believe she said that? Now, see, if I had

wanted to play back with her? I woulda said something

like, "Oh yeah? Well you know that feeling you get

just before you have an orgasm. When the pleasure is

just building and pulsing and throbbing all through

your body? If you could IMAGINE THAT FEELING, could

you FEEL THAT RIGHT NOW? (squeeze her hands as you say

this ... you've now set up an incredibly powerful

stacked up anchor!)

Optional: If you wish to further accelerate the state, talk

about another person's experience, using the spiel from Chapter

9:

Like first, as she looks at the guy, and starts to REALLY PAY

ATTENTION, she just becomes aware of certain things ... like the

rhythm of her breathing, and the beating of her heart, and the

out line of his face ... so as she becomes aware of all these

things, one particular feature of his face just starts to rivet

her attention, so she becomes totally absorbed in the connection

taking place ... and as that's all happening, it's like the

warmth of his voice, the deep rich warmth of it, just starts to

penetrate her consciousness, and spread all through her body,

and as her heart beats faster and her breathing increases, that

warmth just heats up into a fire, spreading through her chest

and down through her belly, as the pleasure of it just starts to

pound and pulsate all through her, down to where she really

longs to have it go, until that desire for him just BECOMES

UTTERLY OVERWHELMING, and she just SURRENDERS to it completely.

Sexual Arousal Friends Into Lovers Variation #2

Ok. Here's another option to try. It leads into the same state,

but starts from a different place. And, if it seems to

outrageous to you, remember how you can always put any of these

patterns into quotes, and talk about how your friend was telling

you this! (Notice the weasel phrase that starts it off!)

IF YOU WERE TO wake up one morning, and suddenly realize that

you were deeply and profoundly in love with someone, how do you

think your body would feel different, when you were near them?

How do you think you'd enjoy the warmth of their voice as they

talk to you, the softness of their touch against your cheek, the

look in their eyes as you looked at them, as that longing in you

builds, the longing to be touched, exactly the way you like to

be touched, kissed exactly the way you like to be kissed, until

that passion built so strong inside you, and you were getting so

turned on, that you were begging to be filled with him, in that

way a woman can long to be filled?

(Note: If you see the need, throw in the spiel from example #1)

Falling In Love Pattern/Friends Into Lovers #1:

DO YOU THINK I'M CHARACTER?

This next patterns is what I would have to call, for lack of a

better term, a blinder pattern. What you're doing is getting her

to associate massively pleasurable feelings to you like

admiration and empathy, linking those to being in love, and then

totally blinding her to any faults of character or appearance

you might have. (Notice that this is what happens when a person

really falls for someone anyway; they say love is blind, and

we're just inducing that blindness by describing it! Remember?

There's no difference between describing skillfully and

directing?) This is a slam-doozy of a pattern and I'm very proud

of myself. Make sure you use it on a girl who's known you for a

few months at least.

You: Do you think I'm a character? you know, I think I'm a

character too, but I don't think I'm a mean character,

I think I'm a character with heart. A lot of people

who are characters or who think of themselves as

characters just do it as an excuse to be rude or mean.

But I'll tell you something, even though I've been

through a lot of humiliation in my life, it's never

made me mean. and I think humiliation can make people

mean. I mean, don't get me wrong, I can be mean if I

have to protect myself, but even when I was a small

child, I always had that part in me that would think,

what can I do to make this person treat me better, and

if I can't do that, what can I do in myself so it

doesn't hurt so bad.

And the thing is, I think that's something a person can REALLY

LOVE THAT ABOUT ME, but sometimes it takes a long time

for a woman to SEE THAT IN ME, and REALLY CONNECT TO

IT cause I know I don't have a lot of the things that

other guys do. I don't have a great body and I'm not

really handsome, but when they do SEE IT, and REALLY

CONNECT TO IT, then all these other things I don't

have just fade into insignificance, as they just

CONNECT IN TO THIS. I just wish it didn't take so

long, that a special girl could SEE IT RIGHT AWAY.

Falling in Love/Friends Into Lovers #2:

I THOUGHT I WAS IN LOVE

This pattern is based on the old "negative take away" so

frequently used by car salesman. What happens is, as the

contract is about to be signed, the salesman will look at the

customer, take the contract in his two hands, and say something

like, "You know, maybe this isn't the car. For you. Let's just

forget this deal." And then he starts to tear the corner of the

contract.

Of course, this triggers the opposite response in the customer,

who then does his best to convince the salesman that, yes, he,

the customer, really does want to buy the car!!!

Thus, by taking over the customer's resistance, and playing it

out first, the salesman gets the customer to take on the

salesman's' role! Her!

This pattern, therefore, basically works by telling the girl

that you MISTAKENLY thought you were in love with her, but now

realize it was a silly idea. You can use it as a booster to the

"Do You Think I'm A Character Pattern!". Just do the "Character"

pattern first, and this one an hour or so later! Here goes:

You: Can I make a confession? There was a time when I

thought I was in love with you. I mean, I realize now,

looking back on it, that I wasn't. It was just at that

time I could IMAGINE US HAVING SO MUCH FUN, IN SO MANY

DIFFERENT SITUATIONS, and just GROWING CLOSER IN OUR

MUTUAL RESPECT AND SUPPORTING AND HELPING EACH OTHER

DOWN THROUGH THE YEARS. I guess I was stupid to ever

THINK THAT THINGS COULD BE LIKE THAT.

Chapter 11:

THE BOYFRIEND DESTROYER, PART II

When to use this pattern: This pattern is for use when you ask a

woman out and she hits you with that famous line, "I have a

boyfriend". It's purpose is to get her to meet you for coffee

anyway, at which time you can play with her mind using any of

the other patterns we'll give you. It's also another example of

one of my favorite types of patterns: time distortion!!!

Steps/tools used:

1. Trance phrases/time distortion to get past her resistance.

2. Trance phrases to get her imagining already having been

with you and really enjoyed it.

3. Get her to repeat that train of thought.

4. Pitch for coffee date.

You: Well, look, I really enjoyed this, and I'd like to

talk to you again sometime? Can I call you?

Her: Sorry ... I have a boyfriend.

You: You have a boyfriend? Well, I have to admit I'm

disappointed, I have to respect that you're in a

relationship. But let me ask you a question. How

surprised would you be to FIND YOURSELF ACTUALLY

LOOKING FORWARD TO SPENDING A LITTLE TIME WITH ME?I

mean maybe to the point where you could IMAGINE US

OVER COFFEE, LAUGHING AND HAVING THE BEST TIME, and

you starting to FEEL REALLY COMFORTABLE WITH IT?As

you THINK ABOUT IT LIKE THAT, doesn't seem natural to

meet like Monday or Tuesday for coffee?

The Boyfriend Destroyer: Part II

Note: Originally, I taught this pattern to be used if she

brought up the boyfriend objection when you first asked her out.

With all the other patterns I've shown you, I'd only use it now

if she brought up the boyfriend as part of an objection to

getting physical or after you'd been screwing for a few weeks.

Her: I'm sorry ... I can't keep seeing you. I should have

told you before, but I have a boyfriend.

(or, as you are making out like crazy)

Her: We really shouldn't be doing this. I have a boyfriend

You: But I'll tell you what really fascinates me. It's

like, what's this guy's name you're going out with?

Her: Bill

You: Right, so you're going out with this guy, Bill (Point

to your right palm) OK. And you think he's real cool,

and you're enjoying it and all that ... and then let's

say for whatever reason you break up. You ever BREAK

UP WITH SOMEONE (point to palm) and you go through

that period of mulling it over, and maybe you NOTICE

THE PATTERNS IN HIM THAT RUINED YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP

... or maybe you start to LOOK AT HIM IN A WAY THAT

REALLY MAKES HIM A LOT LESS ATTRACTIVE IN YOUR MIND?

However you would JUST DO THAT! I mean it's so weird

how the mind does all this stuff, but what I'm curious

about is, what would it be like for a person if that

entire process that usually takes months, what would

it be like if that entire process were to TAKE PLACE

INSTANTANEOUSLY (snap your fingers in her face) in

someone's mind? It'd be like (wave your hand in her

face) YOU COULDN'T SEE HIS PICTURE ANY MORE IN YOUR

MIND. Every time you tried it'd be like something was

just wiping it right out. And that's how you'd know

that you'd already started to FORGET ALL ABOUT HIM, TO

MAKE HIM LESS IMPORTANT.

Or you know, like, is there someone you used to date,

but now there way out of your mind ... you haven't

even thought about them in a long time? Yeah? Well

notice as you take your finger and point, where do you

see there picture?

Right over there? Isn't that interesting? So if you

were to, FORGET ABOUT THIS GUY (hold up your palm,

push it to where she pointed), it'd be like he gets

stuck in the same place. And of course you might think

to yourself, "but I want to put him back".

You might think you might think that ... until you

REALLY NOTICE that from over there, from this

perspective, you really can SEE ALL THE THINGS in him

and about him you don't like ... something that over

time, would really cause you to dump him.

And when that happens it's a little sad, but it's also

a nice thing, because it allows you to CREATE AN

OPENING FOR SOMEONE NEW. (point to yourself) I know

that's how it can GO DOWN WITH ME (point to your

dickee!)

Chapter 12:

TOTAL FULFILLMENT IN A RELATIONSHIP

The Ultimate Fulfillment In A Relationship Pattern

Note: This pattern should be used only after you've been

sleeping with her for a few weeks and really feel like you want

to pursue something long term with her. The pattern works by

eliciting from her highest values in a relationship and then

finding out what is she needs to experience in order to know

those values are being met. This takes out all the guess work

and gives you a means to either make her feel totally fulfilled,

or absolutely violated, whichever serves your aims best. Notice

how you use expressed agreement as a softener. Also notice that

you don't want her to name the qualities she's looking for in a

man, but rather the values she'd get from the relationship;in

other words what a man having those qualities allows her to

experience. We'll break this pattern into three phases:

Phase One: Eliciting Her Relationship Values

You: What's important to you in a relationship?

Her: Oh, I don't know ... I guess mutual admiration.

You: Gee ... that is an important one. How do you know when

you have mutual admiration.

Her: Well ... I guess when I see things in him I really

admire, that make me look up to him. And he expresses

to me that there are things about me he really

admires.

You: I agree ... that's a powerful one. Well, what else

important to you in a relationship?

Her: Oh ... a sense of humor. (Note here she's gone off

track by naming a quality she wants in the man. Here's

how you steer her back to values in the relationship

when this occurs:)

You: Well, I know that's an important quality for a person

to have, but what does a person's having a sense of

humor allow you to experience that you wouldn't other

wise experience?

Her: Oh, that's easy, fun and enjoyment ... really enjoying

each other's company.

You: Of course ... why be involved with someone if they

aren't fun to be around?

Her: Right.

You: And what has to happen for you to know you've got

mutual enjoyment with someone?

Her: Well, it's just of all the people you could choose to

be with, you choose to be with them, and no matter

what it is you do, even if that particular thing

doesn't turn out as planned, like you go to a crummy

play, or the weather's lousy or whatever, you still

wind up having a really great time.

You: Wow ... that would be great to be with someone like

that. Well, what else is important to you in a

relationship?

Her: Trust.

You: Wow ... now that is an important one. How do you know

when you have trust with someone?

Her: Well ... they tell me the good stuff as well as the

bad stuff ... they'll let me know when they aren't

happy with something I've said or done ... and also

they do what they say they're going to do when they

say they are going to do it.

Phase Two: Ranking The Values From Most To Least Important

You: Of those three values, mutual admiration, really

enjoying each other's company, and trust, which is the

most important? Which would you absolutely have to

have?

Her: Well ... I'd really want to have them all ... but ...

I'd have to say really enjoying each other's company.

You: Well ... I could see that. Of mutual admiration and

trust, which is most important?

Her: Mutual admiration.

Phase Three: Creating An Intense Pleasure State By Naming All

Three Values In Order Of Importance

Note: This can be done after you've dropped the topic ... from

an hour later to weeks later. Say something like:

You: You know ... I've been thinking that maybe we've

really got the start of something here. And I think

maybe it's something based on really enjoying each

other's company, mutual admiration, and trust.

(You'll see her go into a profound pleasure state ...

as this is peaking reach over and touch her and as you

do so you say:)

Can you FEEL THAT would be a really wonderful thing to

experience?

Note: Now you have an extremely powerful anchor for her to

experience ultimate satisfaction with you!!! Also, since you

know her rules for creating the sense that she has these values

with you, you now know exactly how to behave to really make her

experience it with you. In the case above, if you're not happy

with something she's done, you'll want to share it with her so

she can experience TRUST, one of her highest values. And you'll

know, if you go to an event that isn't too exciting, it will

still be ok if you manage to have fun anyway. See what I mean?

Chapter 13:

ROSS'S ABSOLUTE FAVORITE PATTERN: THE BLAMMO

Note: This pattern can be done at any time ... either on a date

or at first meeting. The basic steps to the pattern are as

follows:

Step 1: Use fluff talk and humor to make her feel comfortable,

listen to her babble for a little bit.

Step 2: Use the Instantaneous Connection Patterns from Chapter

10 to get her to feel both an incredible connection

and distort her time sense so it seems like she's been

deeply connected to you for months. This is an H-Bomb

combination! (The H-Bomb uses fusion which can only be

ignited from the heat generated by atomic fission.

That's why they have to use an A-Bomb to set off an H-

Bomb. Isn't science wonderful?)

Step 3: Set her up for anchoring an intense pleasure state by

first getting her to notice how everything happens

with a pattern or structure.

Step 4: Elicit and anchor intense pleasure

Step 5: Fire off that anchor

Step 6: Find out her sub modality location for picturing

falling in love.

Step 7: Accelerate her pleasure state by describing the warmth

of your voice coming from that place and spreading all

through her body.

Step 8: Super-accelerate her pleasure state by intensifying

your description of that state and using quotes.

Step 9: Pounce or step back and let her pounce!!!

Got that? So here it is, picking up with step 3:

You: See? Everything has a structure to it. For example,

think about someone you really like for a second? Ok?

Got that? Now, point to where you seem to see that

picture.

(Let her point)

You: Right there? Ok. Now think of someone who you really

don't like at all. Ok? Point to where you see that.

(Let her point ... and by the way if she's one of

those people who doesn't dislike anyone, then have her

think of someone she could take or leave ... who she's

neutral about!)

You: Now watch ... take that picture of the person you

don't like ... and try as hard as you can to move it

over into the place where you see the picture of the

person you do like.

(She'll discover that she can't do it)

You: See that? It doesn't want to go does it? Because you

need a way to sort out who you really like (point to

yourself ... why miss an opportunity) from who you

don't. Isn't that need?

Her: Yeah! Cool! Wow! (Or any other similar stupid female

expostulation!)

You: Now see, there's another difference in the way you

make pictures in your head. For example, you ever been

on a roller coaster?

Her: Yeah!

You: Ok, watch. I want you to remember a time you were on a

roller coaster, and I want you to see yourself sitting

in the roller coaster car, riding up and down on the

roller coaster. Just do that for a few seconds.

(Let her do this for a bit)

You: Ok ... now we're gonna do it again, but this time,

instead of seeing yourself, see what you'd actually

see through your own eyes if you were there, going on

that roller coaster ride.

(Let her do that)

You: Now, of those two, which one felt more real, actually

gave you the feelings of being there?

Her: The second one!!

You: Of course ... because you can see yourself in a

memory, or see what you actually saw. When you see

what you actually saw it really helps you to get the

feelings of how it actually felt!

Her: Wow! This is fascinating!!!

You: Isn't it? Now look ... here's the next piece of this

and it's called anchoring. So, here, try this ...

close your eyes ... you remember a time when you were

feeling exquisite pleasure in your body???

Her: mmmm ... yes.

You: Ok. I want you to see what you saw, hear what you

heard, and feel how it felt. And when those feelings

of exquisite pleasure really reach their peak, just

wiggle your little finger for me.

(Watch to see she's really in state ... her face will

change, breathing quicken, etc. when she wiggles that

finger, reach over, touch her wrist and say,:)

You: Purrrfect. And just hang on for a minute to how good

it feels to FEEL PERFECT. (Keep holding her wrist as

she's experiencing this!)

You: Ok. Open eyes. Close em again. And go through it again

... see what you saw, hear what you heard, feel how it

felt. And when those feelings reach their peak, wiggle

that finger. (Repeat the anchor process)

You: Ok, one more time (run her through it one more time)

You: Ok. Open your eyes. Now, the theory behind anchoring

is, that if someone is in a certain state, and you

combine that state with a touch or sound, when you

repeat that touch they'll go back into that state. So

if I were to say to you, you know, I find that when I

spend time with someone, and I really start to FEEL

THAT SENSE OF INCREDIBLE CONNECTION, maybe then you

can just FEEL PERFECT (fire off the anchor by touching

her wrist) And that feels great, doesn't it?

Her: Oh, yeah!

You: Isn't this interesting? Isn't the mind really cool?

Now notice something else: you ever just fall head

over heals in love with someone (point to yourself ...

never miss that opportunity!)

Her: Oh yeah!

You: Well, as you're remembering that time, point to where

you see that picture!

(let her point it out)

You: Ok ... and you're really feeling perfect right now,

aren't you? (fire off that anchor again!) Her: Oh

yeah!

You: So watch ... (point to where she falls in love) As you

THINK ABOUT THAT SPACE AS I TALK TO YOU ... as you

ALLOW MY VOICE TO COME FROM THAT SPACE ... you might

find it's like you want to CREATE AN OPENING FOR MY

VOICE ... and opening that allows the deep, rich

warmth of my voice to just penetrate your thoughts,

and SPREAD THAT WARMTH ALL THROUGH YOUR BODY ... that

sure feels great, doesn't it?

Her: God, yes!!

(At this point you have two options for preceding.

Either will work)

Option #1: Quotes

You: In fact, as THE WARMTH OF THAT VOICE JUST TURNS TO A

FIRE, SPREADING through your chest and down through

your body ... as YOUR HEART BEATS FASTER and your

BREATHING INCREASES, and you really FEEL THAT TOTAL

PERFECTION (fire anchor again) ... I just want to tell

you I'm having a great time with you tonight. It sure

is better that being with all those jerks out there.

Cause I know some guys can be so crude. It's like the

other night, I was in a bar ... and this guy walks

right up to a girl and he says:

"Can you IMAGINE HOW GREAT IT WOULD FEEL if I were

going down on you, exactly the way you like it, all

night long, and you were SO HOT AND SO WET YOU WERE

BEGGING TO HAVE ME INSIDE YOU?" I can't believe how

crude some guys can be!!!

Option # 2: Describing Another Person's Experience

You: My friend Kim was telling me that her roommate has

this best friend, Dawn. And when Dawn starts to notice

that growing attraction, it happens in a certain way.

Like first, as she looks at the guy, and starts to

REALLY PAY ATTENTION, she just becomes aware of

certain things ... like the rhythm of her breathing,

and the beating of her heart, and the out line of his

face ... so as she becomes aware of all these things,

one particular feature of his face just starts to

rivet her attention, so she becomes totally absorbed

in the connection taking place ... and as that's all

happening, it's like the warmth of his voice, the deep

rich warmth of it, just starts to penetrate her

consciousness, and spread all through her body, and as

her heart beats faster and her breathing increases,

that warmth just heats up into a fire, a fire

spreading through her chest and down through her

belly, a fire pounding and pulsating all through her,

down to where she really longs to have it go, until

that desire for him just BECOMES UTTERLY OVERWHELMING,

and she just SURRENDERS to it completely.

Chapter 14:

PATTERNS FOR SPECIAL CHALLENGES AND PROBLEMS

As powerful as the preceding Speed Seduction Patterns are,

occasionally you're going to run into some trouble. This chapter

is dedicated to patterns designed to powerfully resolve the

special challenges you might sometimes face.

The Shock Pattern: When Nothing Else Is Working

Some times you'll find that you've done all of the patterns

technically right, but you still don't get much of a response

from a woman. In these situations, you have to get a bit more

flexible, back up and try some different techniques.

Here for example, is a pattern I used to finally nail Melanie, a

girl I'd known for some time. Now, the problem with Melanie was

NOT that she was sexually excited by the stuff I was doing. It's

just that I did the sexual stuff before the connection stuff, so

I had to back up, drop the sexual stuff, and create the

connection.

But, because she was naturally sharp anyway, and further was now

on guard, it was difficult. The final thing I knew about her was

she was a big mismatcher; in other words, even if she liked an

idea, if she thought that she was at all having it forced on

her, she'd automatically shut down to it, and resist it.

So, in her case, I decided to use two things:

1. SHOCK

2. NEGATION

Now, I'm not necessarily suggesting to follow everything I said

to her, because the girl you're having problems with may not be

like her. Bear in mind that I'd known her for some months, and

we were now getting closer emotionally. So here's what I said,

while we were just sitting in the park, talking.

Me: You know what? I'm going to tell you something, and

you're not going to like it. You're not going to like

it at all, but here it is: I think it's time you and I

started FUCKING ... (pause) around, with the idea

(pause) of your forming a strong understanding, which

is that persuasion isn't about making someone feel

something they don't really feel, it's about awakening

and reminding them of some that's already there

anyway; so I know you couldn't IMAGINE HOW GREAT IT

WOULD FEEL if we were doing it exactly the way you

like it; there's also no way you could IMAGINE HOW

GREAT IT WOULD IT WOULD FEEL to have me licking and

sucking you just the way you like it, but if you

could; you might then REALIZE that FUCK IT (POINT TO

YOUR DICK) IT JUST FEELS SO DAMN GOOD, it doesn't

matter who's doing it; the only thing you know is, YOU

WANT IT! (POINT TO YOUR DICK AGAIN!)

Ok; you'll notice that I shocked the shit out of her by

appearing to be blatant about wanting to fuck her, but then, I

changed the meaning of that sentence by tacking on the words

"around with the idea" and then pausing again, before telling

her what the idea is. But this is getting her really hot to

listen to the idea, because of her shock and confusion. Had I

just presented the idea about it not mattering who was making

her feel what, it would not have had the impact.

Then, I further pace the way her mind works by telling her that

I know she "couldn't" imagine all these things. That way she

doesn't have to resist it because I'VE ALREADY RESISTED IT FOR

HER!!

Aren't I a genius?

Patterns If And When You Get Caught!

In the beginning of your Speed Seduction efforts, some girls

might catch on to what you are doing. These patterns should be

used if that should occur. The first one is really just a

confusion pattern, and works by making what you're saying so

hard to follow that she gets amnesia for her objection!!!

If You Get Caught Pattern # 1: You're Fucking With My Mind!

You: I know it really can seem that way, but I think that's

just because I talk about the way people THINK ABOUT

THINGS ANYWAY ON A REALLY DEEP LEVEL, so because what

I'm describing fits their inner experience so well, it

may seem like I'm fucking with them, but really I'm

just discussing what they know anyway. See, cause

there's what you know, there's what you know you know,

and there's you know, but you don't know you know. So

when the things you know but don't know you know,

become the things you know you know, you can just

THINK THINGS DIFFERENTLY, you know?

If You Get Caught Pattern #2: You're Getting Everything You

Want!

This pattern does two things: First, it shocks her by admitting

that you ARE manipulating her, and then it re-directs her to

view that as a good thing, because it means she's really going

to be happy with you!

You: You're right. I am manipulating you, in fact it's my

job to manipulate you to FALL MADLY IN LOVE WITH ME.

And you're job is to see to it that I do it in a way

where you FEEL GREAT, because YOU'RE GETTING

EVERYTHING YOU'VE ALWAYS WANTED, AND EVERYTHING YOU'VE

ALWAYS DREAMED OF. Like maybe in those times as a

little girl when you dreamed about the kind of man you

wanted, really wanted to be with (point to yourself)

and the kind of life you wanted to share with him?

And maybe next time you think to yourself on the

inside, (use a whiny tonality) "He's fucking with me

... he's manipulating me", maybe it's only a sign to

GO INTO THE STATE where you REALIZE THAT WHAT'S

IMPORTANT isn't who's doing what to whom ... what's

important is that you really can FEEL THE WAY YOU WANT

TO FEEL WITH THE KIND OF PERSON YOU'VE ALWAYS WANTED

TO FEEL IT WITH. Can you FEEL THAT (reach out and

touch her) is a change you really want to have?

The Amplifier!!!!

Sometimes you find that, no matter what pattern you run, a woman

never really gets that "doggie dinner bowl look" that lets you

know she really is turned on. Some of them are just so

disassociated from their feelings, that you just can't get those

strong responses.

This pattern should be used if you find that, after throwing a

few patterns her way, you're still not detecting any strong

response. It acts like a magnifying glass, amplifying anything

else you suggest to her! Here it is;

You: Can you REMEMBER THE FIRST TIME A GUY EVER GOT TO YOU?

I mean as you look at me and answer the question, can

you REMEMBER THAT FIRST TIME, WHEN YOU SAW A GUY AND

YOU THOUGHT MMM? Do you remember where you felt that?

Well, look, I think memory and experience are not the

same, because actually we can remember things in a way

that make them even more exciting than the actually

experience. And everyone has that ability.

For example, just explore for a minute, as you remember again

that first time a guy got to you, what you can do with

the memory to make that more exciting. Like notice

what happens as the picture gets bigger, or brighter,

or move it closer, yeah ... just like that ... and you

know that feels even better doesn't it?

YEAH? See, now the ability to make memories and images

more exciting and more pleasant is a neat one, but

here's the thing to realize, as you remember how good

it felt when that guy got to you, you can even take

ongoing experience and make that more exciting, so as

you remember how to do at as we continue to talk

tonight I'm just wondering how much you can enjoy

feeling it happen?

The Jerk Destroyer

It's an unfortunate reality of existence that many women are

attracted to what can only be called assholes: guys who are

closed, distant and self-absorbed.

This pattern works by tying in to the woman's ultimate fantasy

of being with a man who's strong, but also open emotionally. It

totally blows her fuses and makes any jerk she's with now seem

totally unimportant. You should use it only after you determine

that she's indeed the jerk-loving type.

You: You know, if you ever meet a guy who's strong, who

knows how to hang on to his own strength, and knows

how to call you on your bullshit, yet at the same time

open himself to you completely, and totally give of

himself, it'll be the most mind-blowing experience of

your life. I think it'll be like a diamond bullet ...

a diamond bullet shot right into your soul, that just

spreads through your whole soul and RE-ALIVENS and

AWAKENS you to pleasures and feelings you haven't even

dared to dream about. Can you FEEL THAT ... would be

just a mind-blowing experience.

And I'll tell you something ... I don't know what thoughts

you've had of me or what thoughts you've dared to let

yourself have of me, but when I'm with a woman like

that, and they start to PERCEIVE ALL THESE THINGS ARE

POSSIBLE, it's like wow ... What a difference in the

way they think, you know?

Chapter 15:

WRAP-UP AND GENERAL ADVICE

Well, I hope we haven't thrown too much at you here. These

patterns, and the principles that drive them, are

EXTRAORDINARILY powerful. And you find, I think, that you can

apply them, with just some small modifications, to any area of

life.

If you'll commit yourself to having fun while you experiment,

then there's no limit to how far you can go. If you've bought

this book as part of my complete Speed Seduction Home Study

Course, then you can refer back to this book as you listen to

the accompanying audio tapes or watch the video. If you haven't

yet ordered your entire Speed Seduction Home Study Course, at

the end of this book, you'll find an order coupon, offering a

10% discount. I'd highly advise you GO FOR IT!!!!!

I'd also like to invite you to share your challenges and

successes with me as well as any new patterns you come up with.

You can reach me at (310) 670-6547 or call Dr. Canipe at (703)

791-6421. Mail will reach me at:

Ross Jeffries, 6245 Bristol Parkway, #275, Culver City, CA

90230.

Good luck, and remember: he who hesitates, masturbates!

Appendix A

Notes from Live Seminar

ADVANCED TECHNIQUES OF MANIPULATION AND SEDUCTION: MINDFUCKING-

101

PRINCIPLES AND BELIEFS OF SUPER PERSUASION/SEDUCTION

The Tao Of Getting Laid:

"A Shaolin priest can walk through walls. Listened for, he

cannot be heard. Looked for, he cannot be seen. Felt for, he

cannot be touched." ... Kung Fu

"Yeah, but can he get laid whenever he wants to?" ... Ross

Jeffries

"Do not resist, do not let go!" ... Tai Chi Classics

"Never resist what a woman offers you. Listen between the lines

and allow her to teach you how she wishes to be defeated" ...

Ross Jeffries

"To listen one must be soft and relaxed. If you are "soft as a

piece of cloth" a woman's resistance will have no point upon

which to exert force. You will also be able to "hear" her

intention before she is even aware of it, thus putting her

completely at your mercy." ... Ross Jeffries

WHY ALL THIS SHIT IS NECESSARY:

1. Female ambivalence: the FIM (Female Interrupter

Response) factor; reasons for her ambivalence.

2. What you resist, persists-accept, accept, accept, then

redirect to your advantage.

KEY PRINCIPLES IN PERSUASION:

A. Everything is process: every human experience, whether

it's attraction, falling in love, falling out of love,

etc., involves a process. By skillfully describing a

process you can make a person apply that process to

whomever you'd like them to apply it.

B. People's mental images have a structure. Move pictures

around the structure and they change people's

feelings. If you can move a person's internal

pictures, you can move the person (into your bed), if

that's what you wish.

Exercise 1. Submodalities: Think of someone who you used to be

in love with, but now they've been out of your life for at least

a few years, so you no longer feel anything for them. (It

doesn't even have to be someone who loved you back; could be

someone you just really wanted but got nowhere with.) Notice

where you see the picture of them.

Now, think of someone who you currently or recently really want

or are attracted to. Notice how you see that picture, and

compare it to the first one. Now take the picture of the current

person, and put it down into the location of the other picture.

Now start to notice, from that perspective, the stuff you don't

like about the person.

Question: Knowing this, if you wanted to make a competitor less

important in a woman's mind, how might you do it?

C. Key Persuasion principle: if you want a behavior from

someone, first think of what state it would be most

natural for them to give you that behavior.

Exercise 2: List 3 states you'd like a woman to experience

around you.

SUPER PATTERNS

Pattern 1: getting her to become attracted to you quickly

when you aren't her type

This first super-pattern can be used as a whole, or in pieces,

depending on what you want. This pattern is designed to be used

when you are on the prowl at a party, bar or club, and you sense

the woman you're talking to is just responding to you casually,

but there isn't any spark. Notice how it works by CASUALLY

DESCRIBING A PROCESS rather than giving orders or commands.

Notice also how the last thing you do is move that picture of

you into the submodality of someone she's in love with. Moving

submodalities is powerful. but intrusive.so you usually (but

not always) want to try to do it after the person is already

melting under your command, already in a drooling, breast-

heaving, passionate state. Also notice the power of asking "you

ever"? "You ever" or "can you remember a time when you

experienced" are the words that open up the gates of hell. Also

note that the commands are in bold-face. Finally, note the use

of gesturing to yourself to link the commands to you.

You: You ever experience an attraction for someone who

wasn't even your type? I mean you I've seen these

women with hideous guys, and wondered, what is going

on, but you ever experience that?

Her: Yeah ... I guess so ...

You: You know, I think, when that happens with someone, me,

I think what happens, is, you go inside, and you think

about the inner qualities that you really want in a

person, you know, you think about the things on the

inside that really makes someone become more much more

attractive in your mind, the qualities that makes you

really want to be with them, you know, in such a way

that you just start to really look at them in a

different way. It's like as your talking with them,

maybe you notice one particular feature of their face,

that really starts to grab your attention, and

suddenly you think to yourself, "God ... you know when

I look at him this way, he's actually really

handsome". Or you think, "You know ... I want to kiss

this guy". Or maybe their voice really starts to get

to you. It's like their voice starts to take on an

actual physical warmth, that you can feel the warmth

of that voice starting to spread through your body, so

their words, just start to really get to you. It's

like you create an opening for their words ... like

you create an opening for them? Maybe you start to

have images of fantastic sex with that person. And

it's like, you know, you just long for them to touch

you.

OK. From here, you should be a minute away from at least some

seriously heavy petting, if not a fuck then and there. But now,

let's say you want to extend it, so that she not only is

attracted to you, but falls in love. You just add this part to

what you've already done:

You: So that's one thing, that's attraction, and that's

what you experience when your in the presence of the

person. But then there's what you do when you fall In

love with someone.Me I think what happens is, you go

off by yourself, and you think about that person, you

know, and you see a picture of them in your mind. And

then you name two or three things about him that you

really like, "He's so smart, he's so funny", and then

you get that feeling right in here (point to your

solar plexus) and then you say his name to yourself

two or three times, and then you're in love ... you're

hooked. And the interesting thing, the really

interesting thing, is when that just happens with

someone (point to self) it's like you just have to

keep thinking about that person. You can't get him out

of your mind.

I mean ... you ever fall head over in heels in love?

Yeah? Well, watch ... when you think about that time

you fell head over heels, you see a picture of it,

don't you? Yeah you do. Now watch something

interesting. Point to where you see that picture.

Right. Now notice, as you think about that space as I

talk about me, it really allows you to create an

opening for my words, it's like, my words begin to

effect you in an unusual way. So if I were to say to

you, "watch what happens as you take a picture of me,

(point to your palm) and put it right next to you in

that space (put the picture with your hand up there)

in your mind", that sure would be interesting, wasn't

it? And I wonder what it was about me that you liked

so much that it caused your unconscious to just put

that picture right up there again. Isn't that

interesting?

Ok. Here's what to do if she's just broken up with someone and

is kinda gun shy. She's said, "Look, you're a great guy, and I'd

like to go out with you, but I just broke up with someone and

I'm kinda not ready".

You: I understand. You would like to go out with me. I

think you'll find that as I talk to you, that desire

will increase powerfully. But look, I know there's a

part of you that doesn't want to do this (point to

your left). You know, I mean, it's like you break up

with someone ... and you go through that period of

mourning, and you can be really gun-shy for a while.

You know, you make all these pictures in your head of

all the times this guy let you down or hurt you, and

you feel lousy,oryousee all the good times, and

feel so sad or maybe you make pictures in your head of

all the guys who've hurt you or you start to feel all

those feelings of being hurt, vulnerable, and

betrayed, sad, bad, mad and it just hurts so much, you

want it to stop! On the other hand (point to the

right) I also know there's a part of you that really

likes to have fun, that likes to meet new people and

go out and do new things, you know the part that

really wants that sense of being connected to someone,

(point to you) and that excitement and fun and

passion.

Ok ... final piece ... if she's dating someone currently and you

want her to dump him for you.

Her: Well, I'd like to go out with you but I am seeing

someone right now.

You: Hey, I appreciate you're being straight with me. Thank

you. And as much as I wish it weren't the case, I

gotta tell you I also respect relationships.

Her: Thank you

You: But you know, it's interesting, you can be in a

relationship one minute, and the next minute, you

don't know what's happening. I'm sure you've

experienced that, haven't you?

Her: Oh, yeah. Too often unfortunately.

You: It's like you're going along and you suddenly start to

feel uncertain about where the whole thing is going?

Her: Oh yeah. For sure.

You: But I'll tell you what really fascinates me. It's

like, what's this guy's name you're going out with?

Her: Bill

You: Right, so you're going out with this guy, Bill (Point

to your right palm) ok. And you think he's real cool,

and you're enjoying it and all that ... and then let's

say for whatever reason you break up. You ever break

up with someone (point to palm) and you go through

that period of mulling it over, and you, or maybe you

notice the patterns in him that ruined your last

relationship ... or maybe you start to look at him in

a way that really makes him a lot less attractive in

your mind? However, you would just do that?

I mean it's so weird how the mind does all this stuff,

but what I'm curious about is, what would it be like

for a person if that entire process that usually takes

months, what would it be like if that entire process

were to TAKE PLACE INSTANTANEOUSLY (snap your fingers

in her face) in someone's mind? It'd be like (wave

your hand in her face) you couldn't see his picture

any more in your mind. Every time you tried it'd be

like something was just wiping it right out. And

that's how you'd know that you'd already started to

forget all about him,tomake him less important.

Or you know, like, is there someone you used to date,

but now there way out of your mind ... you haven't

even thought about them in a long time? Yeah? Well

notice as you take your finger and point, where do you

see their picture?

Right over there? Isn't that interesting? So if you

were to, forget about this guy (hold up your palm,

push it to where she pointed), it'd be like he gets

stuck in the same place. And of course, you might

think to yourself, "but I want to put him back".

You might think you might think that ... until you

really notice that from over there, from this

perspective, you really can see something in him you

don't like ... something that over time, would really

cause you to dump him.

And when that happens it's a little said, but it's

also a nice thing, because it allows you to create an

opening for someone new. Me, I know that's how it can

go down on me (point to your dickee!)

Pattern 2: Cancel date pattern:

Her: Sorry, but ... blah blah blah blah and no counter

offer (with counter ... just say "sorry can't" but

maybe some other time")

You: Hmmmm. Let me ask you something. Do you always talk

yourself out of something, "you really want to do?"

Her: Uhhhh ... no ...

You: Good. Then let me show you something. Is there

something that you really love to do, like you just

can't wait to do it? Like if your friends said, "Hey,

let's go do this", you'd be out the door in a second?

Her: Yeah.

You: Great. Now watch this ... as you think about whatever

that activity is in your mind right now, if you were

to take your finger and point to where in your mind

you see that picture, where is it?

Her: Up and to the right.

You: Up and to the right. Isn't that interesting? And point

again with now and notice how clearly you can see that

picture again?

Her: Yeah!

You: Now notice what happens as you put a picture of you

and me together laughing and having lots of fun right

there in that space, in your mine. Doesn't that seem

like something that you just can't wait to do?

Her: Yeah, it does!

You: As that picture gets bigger and brighter as you think

about me, and just makes you feel compelled to go out

with me, I hope you don't feel disappointed when I

tell you that I'm pretty busy right now, and you know

this date we made was really the only time in the next

few days when I could go out.

So, are you sure you can't make it?

Her: You know, I think I can after all.

or

Her: You know I really can't, but I really would like to go

out with you.

You: Well look, as you wait for me to call maybe you can

have lots of fun just looking that picture over and

over. Ok? And maybe I'll talk to you sometime.

Alternative:

You: Let me ask you something point blank. Is going out

with me something you could take or leave or is it

something you really want to do?

Her: Well ... I don't know.

You: Well look. Let me just tell you something straight

out. The only kind of people I want around me are

people who can now feel totally motivated to be with

me, however, your mind just allows that to happen. Ok.

If you don't go out with me, you're going to lose

alot, cause I'm really great guy. So if you find

yourself changing your mind and really want to do

that, call me, and we'll go out have a great time. And

if you don't it'll be a loss for us both whether you

now realize that or not. Ok? Bye.

Submodalities

The important questions to elicit submodality locations are:

Have you ever (x)

As you remember that time when you x, if you were to point to

where you seem to see it, where might you be pointing?

General super-manipulation pattern:

1. Have you ever x?

2. Tell a story about how someone else experienced x.

3. Describe the process of experiencing x, using embedded

commands

4. As an optional fourth step, shift the submodalities

BLAMMO PATTERN

Anchoring elicitation questions:

1. Have you ever experienced x?

2. Watch, see what you saw, hear what you heard, feel how

it felt, and when those feelings of x reach their

peak, wiggle your finger for me.

3. Anchor with touch and word if you'd like.

4. Fire off anchor

Submodality elicitation:

Have you ever fallen madly in love? As you remember that time

when you fell madly in love, and you see a picture of it, if you

were to point to where you see that, where might you be

pointing?

Well watch, as you just KEEP THINKING ABOUT THAT SPACE as I talk

to you, as you ALLOW MY WORDS TO COME FROM THAT SPACE, and think

you'll really start to feel perfect (fire off anchor). In fact,

notice, it's as if you want to CREATE AN OPENING FOR MY WORDS.

So if I were to say to you, "watch what happens as you PUT A

PICTURE OF YOU AND ME BEING TOGETHER IN A VERY SPECIAL WAY,

RIGHT THERE IN THAT SPACE", that sure would feel just perfect

(fire off anchor), doesn't it?

In fact, when you THINK ABOUT WHAT IT IS THAT REALLY TURNS YOU

ON (point to that place), it can allow you to COME (fire off

anchor) to the same conclusion OVER AND OVER AGAIN (fire off

anchor) that what you really want to do is create an OPENING for

DESIRE (fire anchor), create an OPENING FOR ECSTASY (fire

anchor), and opening that LONGS SO MUCH TO BE FILLED, don't you?

(fire anchor, slip on condom)

SUPPLEMENTAL SEMINAR NOTES: ADVANCED TECHNIQUES OF MANIPULATION

AND SEDUCTION

I. EMBEDDED COMMANDS

The purpose of embedding a command is to direct your victim, er,

ah, subject to the behaviors and states of consciousness that

you desire and require. To directly give a command, would, in

most people elicit resistance, unless they are cult members or

in the United States Military. So you want to learn to use

hidden, or embedded commands.

Weasel Phrases + Command Verbs + States, Processes or

Experiences = Embedded Commands

Weasel Phrases Command Verbs S.P.E.

When you ... become very horny

If you were to ... think about fantastic sex

How does it feel when ... get in love

What's it like when you ... remember having great

sex

A person can ... experience fascination

As you ... have absolute lust

It's not necessary

to ... forget incredibly

turned on

You really shouldn't ... fall all about him

You don't have to ... know someone's

attractive

By putting these and other examples together you can embedded

(in bed!) virtually any command right past her pointy little

head!!!!!

II. Super Weasel Pattern: Quotes

Quotes is a great way to slip normally unacceptable

communication right past someone's guard. Kids instinctively use

it: remember when you wanted to swear in front of your parents,

but you didn't want to get slapped, so you said something like,

"Mommy, mommy ... Johnny from down the street said, "Cocksucker,

motherfucker!" ...

An example of using quotes on a girl would be:

You: I can't believe how rude some guys are. I was a bar last

night, and this guy walked up to a girl and got right in her

face and said, "Try not to think about me eating your pussy all

night long tonight".

This of course leads us into:

Super Weasel Pattern II: NEGATION

Negation just works by putting the word "not" or "don't" in

front of the suggestion you want to embedded, as in the above

example. ("Shouldn't" also works as well). This is perfect

response to a woman who is resisting you by saying, "We really

shouldn't be doing this" ... You say, "You're right ... we

shouldn't think about fucking ecstatically all night long. You

don't need to imagine how incredible that will feel, and how hot

and horny you don't have to get. You couldn't possibly REALLY

WANT THAT BAD!

As Bugs Bunny would say, "Ain't I a stinker?"

Exercises: Person A states a weasel phrase ... person B

completes it with a command verb and S.R.E.

Switch sides, and repeat.

Now, take commands created and use them in a quotes pattern. Use

them again in a negation pattern.

"I come to you with only words,

Looks and money I have not.

But should desire require it

My words will bear me out!" ... the Speed Seducer's Credo

"To be kind or accommodating to a woman who cannot appreciate it

is wrong. Such a passive attitude encourages her to take

advantage not only of you, but of other men who come along and

make the same mistake. It is your moral duty and obligation to

put such a woman in her place and teach her that such behavior

will not be rewarded".

SECRETS OF SPEED SEDUCTION SEMINAR NOTES

WHAT DO YOU BELIEVE IS POSSIBLE FOR YOURSELF? AND ... WHAT WILL

LEARNING SPEED SEDUCTION DO FOR YOU? WHAT WILL IT ALLOW YOU TO

HAVE ... WHAT CHANGES WILL YOU BE ABLE TO MAKE IN YOUR LIFE????

To enjoy sex with whoever I want, whenever I want it ... To

insure that I can attract ideal women to me to enjoy the power

and self-control of knowing all the right moves to raise my

self- respect to stellar levels ... to easily flow into the

right movement ...

ATTITUDES AND BELIEFS OF SPEED SEDUCER:

1. YOU CAN RAPIDLY CREATE AND ATTRACTION IN ANYONE YOU WISH,

AT ANY LEVEL OF INTENSITY ... IN FACT ... IT'S ALREADY

THERE ... YOUR JOB IS TO EVOKE IT AND BRING IT OUT.

2. RESISTANCE IS THE GATEWAY TO GETTING WHAT YOU WANT ...

CHALLENGE IS WHERE THE FUN IS ...

3. SEX WITH YOU IS THE MOST EXCITING FULFILLING, WONDERFUL

THING SHE COULD POSSIBLY IMAGINE ... IMAGERY FOR WOMAN

YOU'RE CONTEMPLATING BEING WITH ...

4. SPEED SEDUCTION IS FUN ...

5. EVERY DECISION IS CONSTANTLY BEING REMADE

6. CREATE A FRAMEWORK THAT ALLOWS FOR MAXIMUM INTRUSION, WHILE

SEEMING TO BE ABSOLUTELY UNINTRUSIVE.

7. IT ISN'T ABOUT CONTROLLING OR COMMANDING, BUT LEADING

GENTLY TO WHAT'S ALWAYS BEEN BEST FOR THEM ALL ALONG.

8. NEVER TRY TO RESIST RESISTANCE. INTERRUPT IT, AND USE IT,

OR GO AROUND AND AFTER IT.

9. ANYONE CAN LEARN SPEED SEDUCTION. SPEED SEDUCERS ARE BORN;

NOT MADE!!!

10. IF I WANT TO MASTER SPEED SEDUCTION I MUST PRACTICE,

CONSISTENTLY. PRACTICE IS MORE IMPORTANT (FAR MORE) THAN

NATURAL TALENT.

Exercise: Changing beliefs and future pacing your success

IMPORTANT PRINCIPLES OF SPEED SEDUCTION:

1. EVERYTHING IS PROCESS. THERE IS NO SUCH "THING" AS LOVE,

ATTRACTION, FASCINATION. THESE ARE STATES OF MIND, AND AS

SUCH CAN BE SUMMONED FORTH AND DIRECTED AT WILL.

2. ASK YOUR SELF IN ADVANCE WHAT STATES YOU WANT A WOMAN TO

EXPERIENCE IN YOUR PRESENCE.

Exercise: List states you'd want a woman to experience with

you.

3. DON'T REINVENT THE WHEEL. ONCE YOU'VE CREATED THOSE STATES

WITH HER, MAKE SURE YOU WIRE IT UP SO YOU CAN FIRE THEM OFF

AUTOMATICALLY WITHOUT HAVING TO GO BACK AND RE-CREATE THEM.

THE FIRST PUNCH TAKES THE LONGEST.

4. ALWAYS GO FROM LEAST INTRUSIVE TO MOST INTRUSIVE.

5. REMEMBER IN EVERY ONE OF THESE PHASES, YOU MUST DO IT FROM

THE RIGHT POSITION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Exercise: It'll be great for you baby visualization!

6. TONALITY IS CRITICAL THROUGHOUT

Exercise: Power of tonality on yourself. A, E, I, O, U

ATTACKING HER UNCONSCIOUS PROGRAMMING ...

OTHER POWER WEAPONS ... LEARNING HER RULES:

WHAT'S IMPORTANT TO YOU IN:

WHAT ELSE:

HOW DO YOU KNOW:

Generalized Kenrick Super-patterns

1. Have you ever x?

2. Give example

3. Describe process (link to you if positive, to opponent

if negative)

4. As optional coup-degrace, move their mental pictures

around

Other key elements of Kenrick Super patterns

1. What they will experience

2. with whom

3. when

"In motion, be like water

At rest, like a mirror

Respond, like the echo

Be subtle, as though non-existent" ... Taoist verse

Seduction/Get Laid Patterns:

Note: the following patterns are Copyright 1994, Ross Jeffries.

No part of these patterns may be reproduced without express

written consent of Ross Jeffries. All Rights are Reserved!!!

Note: Concerning Openers And Set-Ups

Remember as you work, play, and practice with these patterns

that they are best done in the framework of a discussion with

the woman about "how interesting the mind is" or "how things all

happen in a pattern ... they don't just happen randomly". It is

always better to appear to be explaining than directing,

although as you'll learn the line between these can be quite

skillfully blurred. Also bear in mind you must watch to see how

a woman is responding to you. While all these patterns are

powerful, and almost every woman will respond, some women

respond more powerfully to different aspects of a pattern. If a

woman appears to be showing little excitement at seeing those

pictures in her head, drop that approach and focus and the

warmth of your voice spreading all through her body and vice

versa.

Some Other General Rules To Bear In Mind

The most frequently used weasel patterns are "Have You Ever" and

"What's It Like When". To switch her to body feelings, you can

find it useful if you use "What's It Feel Like When", or "What

Would It Feel Like If".

The General Pattern Or Sequence To Follow

It's often useful to think of "Speed Seduction" like baking a

cake. You've got to have all the ingredients, but they must also

be added in the proper order and proportion. Thus, you don't mix

up the batter, stick the cake in the oven for 40 minutes at 350

degrees and then crack in the egg. My preferred sequence is:

1. Get their attention through humor and introduce

yourself.

2. Create a sense of incredible connection and USE TIME

DISTORTION to make it seem like they've already been

in love with you for months.

3. Anchor them to intense pleasure state in their body

4. Use submodalities, embedded commands, quotes and

anything else I can to incredibly intensify that state

so they are begging to fuck me

The Power Of "Have You Ever": Fascination Pattern

Note: This pattern should be used after general banter and fluff

talk. It can stand on it's own or be integrated into part of a

larger pattern.

"Let me ask you question. Have you ever been totally fascinated

with someone? Like maybe as you were there, LOOKING at him, and

you started to LISTEN CAREFULLY, it was like his voice just

seemed to wrap itself around you, and the rest of your

environment just disappeared, and your entire world, everything

you saw, became what was right in front of you? And anything he

described, you found that you could just PICTURE IT CLEARLY? So

you know, if he were talk about a romantic walk, on a moonlit

beach, with your perfect partner, you could SEE YOURSELF there

with him, just enjoying what that would be like? "

The Power Of "Have You Ever" Instantaneous Connection Pattern

NOTE: You can use this pattern five minutes of meeting her, or

over a cup of coffee or even dinner. This pattern can stand

alone by itself or be integrated into a larger pattern. It's

best to set it up by talking about how you ever notice that some

things seem to take a long time, maybe hours, just seem to fly

by? I think time is a funny thing ... like for example:

You: Have you ever felt an instantaneous connection with

someone? (Point to yourself) Like maybe as you were

there, LOOKING at him, and you started to LISTEN

INTENTLY, it was like there was a cord of LIGHT

(gesture from your solar plexus to hers) going from

you to them? And as that cord began to GLOW, WITH THE

WARMTH of that connection, maybe you were even able to

IMAGINE A TIME IN YOUR FUTURE (gesture either to your

left or to your right ... at this point it really

doesn't matter), say six months from now, still

FEELING THAT SENSE OF INCREDIBLE CONNECTION, and

LOOKING BACK ON TODAY (point back to you) as having

been the start of it?

Them: Oh yeah ...

You: See, I think it's so funny how some people can JUST DO

THAT and LET IT HAPPEN because for me it takes longer.

But I do find that during the course of an evening, as

you REALLY LISTEN to someone (point to yourself), and

you START TO RECOGNIZE those values and qualities in

them that you hold so dearly for yourself ... pause

... WITH ME that's when you can MAKE THAT CONNECTION

and really FEEL THAT GROWING BOND. I mean can you FEEL

THAT (reach out and touch) is an incredible experience

to have?

Friends Into Lovers Pattern

Note: This pattern can be used on a woman who has been a long

time friend but shown no sexual interest, or on a woman with

whom you had a few dates way back when but never got anywhere.

It works best in a casual setting like over coffee. Notice how

this pattern utilizes a "have you ever" to set up the use of

quotes. It also utilizes anchoring. After general "fluff" talk

proceed as follows:

You: Have ever you hung out with someone who you weren't

really attracted to but then, for whatever mysterious

reason, you just suddenly found that you started to

THINK THINGS DIFFERENTLY and SEE THEM IN A WHOLE NEW

WAY? (point to yourself)

I mean, I think sometimes people really don't know

what they want, at least consciously ... but then it's

like YOUR CONSCIOUS MIND DIVES DOWN (gesture with both

hands to indicate diving down) into your unconscious,

and just (gesture with both to indicate coming back

up) BRINGS BACK UP ALL THOSE DESIRES AND IMAGES AND

FEELINGS INTO YOUR MIND.

I mean like my neighbor looks at me one day, and right

out of the blue she takes me by the hands (take her by

the hands) and says, "Can you IMAGINE IF WERE MAKING

OUT, And I was kissing exactly the way you like to be

kissed, touching you exactly the way you liked to be

touched, and you were starting to FEEL INCREDIBLY

TURNED ON, so turned on your had to have me.?"

Can you believe she said that? Now, see, if I had

wanted to play back with her? I woulda said something

like, "Oh yeah? Well you know that feeling you get

just before you have an orgasm. When the pleasure is

just building and pulsing and throbbing all through

your body? If you could IMAGINE THAT FEELING, could

you FEEL THAT RIGHT NOW

(squeeze her hands as you say this ... you've now set

up an incredibly powerful stacked up anchor!)? Could

you even SEE ALL THOSE IMAGES, big and bright, really

turning you on?

(SPECIAL NOTE: Usually, this is all you'll have to do

... you've got your anchor set up ... simple take her

by the hands and squeeze whenever you want to fire it

off and set that feeling and whole chain of thinking

going again ... but if you want to continue building

up that head of steam in her panties, here's how.

Continue by saying:)

You: You see, even that experience, of someone starting to

FEEL UNBELIEVABLY TURNED ON has a structure and a

sequence to it. Like for some people, first they

REALLY FEEL THOSE FEELINGS (fire off the anchor) and

then they start to SEE THOSE INCREDIBLE IMAGES. And

other people SEE THOSE IMAGES first, and then they GET

THOSE FEELINGS. I mean, when I SEE THOSE IMAGES, mine

are moving. Are your images moving or still images?

(wait for her answer ... it really doesn't matter)

You: And see what can happen is, they feed into each other

... so as the IMAGES GET BRIGHTER AND BIGGER the

FEELINGS can REALLY INTENSIFY, so they're just

radiating and pulsing all through your body, and that

MAKES THE PICTURES BIGGER, which MAKES THE FEELINGS

MORE INTENSE, till you can sometimes just LOSE CONTROL

COMPLETELY and GO WILD WITH DESIRE! !

Boyfriend Destroyer: Part I

Note: This pattern is for use when you ask a woman out and she

hits you with that famous line, "I have a boyfriend". It's

purpose is to get her to meet you for coffee anyway, at which

time you can play with her mind using any of the other patterns

we'll give you. It's also another example of one of my favorite

types of patterns: time distortion!!!

You: Well, look, I really enjoyed this, and I'd like to

talk to you again sometime? Can I call you?

Her: Sorry ... I have a boyfriend.

You: You have a boyfriend? Well, I have to admit I'm

disappointed, I have to respect that you're in a

relationship. But let me ask you a question. How

surprised would you be to FIND YOURSELF ACTUALLY

LOOKING FORWARD TO SPENDING A LITTLE TIME WITH ME? I

mean maybe to the point where you could IMAGINE US

OVER COFFEE, LAUGHING AND HAVING THE BEST TIME, and

you starting to FEEL REALLY COMFORTABLE WITH IT? As

you THINK ABOUT IT LIKE THAT, doesn't seem natural to

meet like Monday or Tuesday for coffee?

Hot and Horny On The Phone

Note: This pattern is to be used after you've fucked her or at

least made out like crazy. It's meant to be left on her

ANSWERING MACHINE, and it's a good example of using our other

favorite weasel phrase, "What's it like when?".

You: (after her machine picks up). What's it like when

YOU'RE SO ATTRACTED to the sound of a man's voice,

that whenever you FIND YOURSELF REALLY LISTENING, it's

like THE WARMTH OF THAT VOICE JUST STARTS TO WRAP

ITSELF AROUND YOU, and SPREAD ALL THROUGH YOUR BODY,

maybe to the point where you FIND YOURSELF THINKING

ABOUT BEING WITH HIM IN A ... MMMMM ... SPECIAL WAY,

in a way that would make you both feel ... mmmm, you

know? ... So much so that those pictures in your mind

GET BIGGER, AND BRIGHTER AND MORE INTENSE, and those

FEELINGS ... MMM ... INTENSIFY you could just

EXPERIENCE AN OVERWHELMING DESIRE TO BE WITH HIM ...

to the point where you just had to PICK UP THE PHONE,

and invite him over?"

The Boyfriend Destroyer: Part II

Note: Originally, I taught this pattern to be used if she

brought up the boyfriend objection when you first asked her out.

With all the other patterns I've shown you, I'd only use it now

if she brought up the boyfriend as part of an objection to

getting physical or after you'd been screwing for a few weeks.

Her: I'm sorry ... I can't keep seeing you. I should have

told you before, but I have a boyfriend. (or, as you

are making out like crazy)

Her: We really shouldn't be doing this. I have a boyfriend

You: But I'll tell you what really fascinates me. It's

like, what's this guy's name you're going out with?

Her: Bill

You: Right, so you're going out with this guy, Bill (Point

to your right palm) ok. And you think he's real cool,

and you're enjoying it and all that ... and then let's

say for whatever reason you break up. You ever BREAK

UP WITH SOMEONE (point to palm) and you go through

that period of mulling it over, or maybe you NOTICE

THE PATTERNS IN HIM THAT RUINED YOUR LAST RELATIONSHIP

... or maybe you start to LOOK AT HIM IN A WAY THAT

REALLY MAKES HIM A LOT LESS ATTRACTIVE IN YOUR MIND?

However you would just do that?

I mean it's so weird how the mind does all this stuff,

but what I'm curious about is, what would it be like

for a person if that entire process that usually takes

months, what would it be like if that entire process

were to TAKE PLACE INSTANTANEOUSLY (snap your fingers

in her face) in someone's mind? It'd be like (wave

your hand in her face) YOU COULDN'T SEE HIS PICTURE

ANY MORE IN YOUR MIND. Every time you tried it'd be

like something was just wiping it right out. And

that's how you'd know that you'd already started to

FORGET ALL ABOUT HIM, TO MAKE HIM LESS IMPORTANT.

Or you know, like, is there someone you use to date,

but now there way out of your mind ... you haven't

even thought about them in a long time? Yeah? We'll

notice as you take your finger and point, where do you

see there picture?

Right over there? Isn't that interesting? So if you

were to, FORGET ABOUT THIS GUY (hold up your palm,

push it to where she pointed), it'd be like he gets

stuck in the same place. And of course you might think

to yourself, "but I want to put him back".

You might think you might think that ... until you

REALLY NOTICE that from over there, from this

perspective, you really can SEE ALL THE THINGS in him

and about him you don't like ... something that over

time, would really cause you to dump him.

And when that happens it's a little sad, but it's also

a nice thing, because it allows you to CREATE AN

OPENING FOR SOMEONE NEW. (point to yourself) I know

that's how it can GO DOWN WITH ME (point to your

dickee!)

The "You're Fucking With My Mind" Pattern

Note: This pattern should be used if she catches you trying to

run NLP on her or confronts you by saying something like the

title of the pattern, "You're fucking with my mind"! It really

is just a confusion pattern, and works by making what you're

saying so hard to follow that she gets amnesia for her

objection!!!

You: I know it really can seem that way, but I think that's

just because I talk about the way people THINK ABOUT

THINGS ANYWAY ON A REALLY DEEP LEVEL, so because what

I'm describing fits their inner experience so well, it

may seem like I'm fucking with them, but really I'm

just discussing what they know anyway. See, cause

there's what you know, there's what you know you know,

and there's you know, but you don't know you know. So

when the things you know but don't know, become the

things you know you know, you can just THINK THINGS

DIFFERENTLY, you know?

Here's another one if they say something like, "You manipulating

me!"

You: You're right. I am manipulating you, in fact it's my

job to manipulate you to FALL MADLY IN LOVE WITH ME.

And you're job is to see to it that I do it in a way

where you FEEL GREAT, because YOU'RE GETTING

EVERYTHING YOU'VE ALWAYS WANTED, AND EVERYTHING YOU'VE

ALWAYS DREAMED OF. Like maybe in those times as a

little girl when you dreamed about the kind of man you

wanted, really wanted to be with (point to yourself)

and the kind of life you wanted to share with him?

And maybe next time you think to yourself on the inside, (use a

whiny tonality) "He's fucking with me ... he's manipulating me",

maybe it's only a sign to GO INTO THE STATE where you REALIZE

THAT WHAT'S IMPORTANT isn't who's doing what to whom ... what's

important is that you really can FEEL THE WAY YOU WANT TO FEEL

WITH THE KIND OF PERSON YOU'VE ALWAYS WANTED TO FEEL IT WITH.

Can you FEEL THAT (reach out and touch her) is a change you

really want to have?

The Ultimate Fulfillment In A Relationship Pattern

Note: This pattern should be used only after you've been

sleeping with her for a few weeks and really feel like you want

to pursue something long term with her. The pattern works by

eliciting from her highest values in a relationship and then

finding out what is she needs to experience in order to know

those values are being met. This takes out all the guess work

and gives you a means to either make her feel totally fulfilled,

or absolutely violated, whichever serves your aims best. Notice

how you use expressed agreement as a softener. Also notice that

you don't want her to name the qualities she's looking for in a

man, but rather the values she'd get from the relationship; in

other words what a man having those qualities allows her to

experience. Well break this pattern into three phases:

Phase One: Eliciting Her Relationship Values

You: What's important to you in a relationship?

Her: Oh, I don't know ... I guess mutual admiration.

You: Gee ... that is an important one. How do you know when

you have mutual admiration.

Her: Well ... I guess when I see things in him I really

admire, that make me look up to him. And he expresses

to me that there are things about me he really

admires.

You: I agree ... that's a powerful one. Well, what else

important to you in a relationship?

Her: Oh ... a sense of humor. (Note here she's gone off

track by naming a quality she wants in the man. Here's

how you steer her back to values in the relationship

when this occurs:)

You: Well, I know that's an important quality for a person

to have, but what does a person's having a sense of

humor allow you to experience that you wouldn't other

wise experience.

Her: Oh, that's easy, fun and enjoyment ... really enjoying

each other's company.

You: Of course ... why be involved with someone if they

aren't fun to be

Her: Right.

You: And what has to happen for you to know you've got

mutual enjoyment with someone?

Her: Well, it's just of all the people you could choose to

be with, you choose to be with them, and no matter

what it is you do, even if that particular thing

doesn't turn out as planned, like you go to a crummy

play, or the weather's lousy or whatever, you still

wind up having a really great time.

You: Wow ... that would be great to be with someone like

that. Well, what else is important to you in a

relationship?

Her: Trust.

You: Wow ... now that is an important one. How do you know

when you have trust with someone?

Her: Well ... they tell me the good stuff as well as the

bad stuff ... they'll let me know when they aren't

happy with something I've said or done ... and also

they do what they say they're going to do when they

say they are going to do it.

Phase Two: Ranking The Values From Most To Least Important

You: Of those three values, mutual admiration, really

enjoying each other's company, and trust, which is the

most important? Which would you absolutely have to

have?

Her: Well ... I'd really want to have them all ... but ...

I'd have to say really enjoying each other's company.

You: Well ... I could see that. Of mutual admiration and

trust, which is most important?

Her: Mutual admiration.

Phase Three: Creating An Intense Pleasure State By Naming All

Three Values In Order Of Importance

Note: This can be done after you've dropped the topic ... from

an hour later to weeks later. Say something like:

You: You know ... I've been thinking that maybe we've

really got the start of something here. And I think

maybe it's something based on really enjoying each

other's company, mutual admiration, and trust.

(You'll see her go into a profound pleasure state ...

as this is peaking reach over and touch her and as you

do so you say:)

Can you FEEL THAT would be a really wonderful thing to

experience?

Note: Now you have an extremely powerful anchor for her to

experience ultimate satisfaction with you!!! Also, since you

know her rules for creating the sense that she has these values

with you, you now know exactly how to behave to really make her

experience it with you. In the case above, if you're not happy

with something she's done, you'll want to share it with her so

she can experience TRUST, one of her highest values. And you'll

know, if you go to an event that isn't too exciting, it will

still be ok if you manage to have fun anyway. See what I mean?

Ross's Absolute Favorite Pattern: The Blammo

Note: This pattern can be done at any time ... either on a date

or at first meeting. The basic steps to the pattern are as

follows:

1: Use fluff talk and humor to make her feel comfortable,

listen to her babble for a little bit.

2: Use the Instantaneous Connection Pattern from above to

get her to feel both an incredible connection and

distort her time sense so it seems like she's been

deeply connected to you for months. This is an H- Bomb

combination! (The H-Bomb uses fusion which can only be

ignited from the heat generated by atomic fission.

That's why they have to use an A-Bomb to set off an H-

Bomb. Isn't science wonderful?)

3: Set her up for anchoring an intense pleasure state by

first getting her to notice how everything happens

with a pattern or structure.

4: Elicit and anchor intense pleasure

5: Fire off that anchor

6: Find out her submodality location for picturing

falling in love.

7: Accelerate hrr pleasure state by describing the warmth

of your voice coming from that place and spreading all

through her body.

8: Super-accelerate her pleasure state by intensifying

your description of that state and using quotes.

9: Pounce or step back and let her pounce!!!

Got that? So here it is, picking up with step 3:

You: See? Everything has a structure to it. For example,

think about someone you really like for a second? Ok?

Got that? Now, point to where you seem to see that

picture.

(Let her point)

You: Right there? Ok. Now think of someone who you really

don't like at all. Ok? Point to where you see that.

(Let her point ... and by the way if she's one of

those people who doesn't dislike anyone, then have her

think of someone she could take or leave ... who she's

neutral about!)

You: Now watch ... take that picture of the person you

don't like ... and try as hard as you can to move it

over into the place where you see the picture of the

person you do like.

(She'll discover that she can't do it)

You: See that? It doesn't want to go does it? Because you

need a way to sort out who you really like (point to

yourself ... why miss an opportunity) from who you

don't. Isn't that need?

Her: Yeah! Cool! Wow! (Or any other similar stupid female

expostulation!)

You: Now see, there's another difference in the way you

make pictures in your head. For example, you ever been

on a roller coaster?

Her: Yeah!

You: Ok, watch. I want you to remember a time you were on a

roller coaster, and I want you to see yourself sitting

in the roller coaster car, riding up and down on the

roller coaster. Just do that for a few seconds.

(Let her do this for a bit)

You: Ok ... now we're gonna do it again, but this time,

instead of seeing yourself, see what you'd actually

see through your own eyes if you were there, going on

that roller coaster ride.

(Let her do that)

You: Now, of those two, which one felt more real, actually

gave you the feelings of being there?

Her: The second one!!

You: Of course ... because you can see yourself in a

memory, or see what you actually saw. When you see

what you actually saw it really helps you to get the

feelings of how it actually felt!

Her: Wow? This is fascinating!!!

You: Isn't it? Now look ... here's the next piece of this

and it's called anchoring. So, here, try this ...

close your eyes ... now ... can you remember a time

when you were feeling exquisite pleasure in your

body???

Her: mmmm ... yes.

You: Ok. I want you to see what you saw, hear what you

heard, and feel how it felt. And when those feelings

of exquisite pleasure really reach their peak, just

wiggle your little finger for me.

(Watch to see she's really in state ... her face will

change, breathing quicken, etc. when she wiggles that

finger, reach over, touch her wrist and say:

You: Purrrfect. And just hang on for a minute to how good

it feels to FEEL PERFECT. (Keep holding her wrist as

she's experiencing this!)

You: Ok. Open eyes. Close em again. And go through it again

... see what you saw, hear what you heard, feel how it

felt. And when those feelings reach their peak, wiggle

that finger. (Repeat the anchor process)

You: Ok, one more time (run her through it one more time)

You: Ok. Open your eyes. Now, the theory behind anchoring

is, that if someone is in a certain state, and you

combine that state with a touch or sound, when you

repeat that touch they'll go back into that state. So

if I were to say to you, you know, I find that when I

spend time with someone, and I really start to FEEL

THAT SENSE OF INCREDIBLE CONNECTION, maybe then you

can just FEEL PERFECT (fire off the anchor by touching

her wrist). And that feels great, doesn't it?

Her: Oh, yeah!

You: Isn't this interesting? Isn't the mind really cool?

Now notice something else: you ever just fall head

over heels in love with some- one (point to yourself

... never miss that opportunity!)

Her: Oh yeah!

You: Well, as you're remembering that time, point to where

you see that picture!

(let her point it out)

You: Ok ... and you're really feeling perfect right now,

aren't you? (fire off that anchor again!)

Her: Oh yeah!

You: So watch ... (point to where she falls in love) As you

THINK ABOUT THAT SPACE AS I TALK TO YOU ... as you

ALLOW MY VOICE TO COME FROM THAT SPACE ... you might

find it's like you want to CREATE AN OPENING FOR MY

VOICE ... and opening that allows the deep, rich

warmth of my voice to just penetrate your thoughts,

and SPREAD THAT WARMTH ALL THROUGH YOUR BODY ... and

that really feels perfect (fire anchor) doesn't it?

Her: God, yes!!

You: In fact, as THE WARMTH OF THAT VOICE JUST TURNS TO A

FIRE, SPREADING through your chest and down through

your body ... as YOUR HEART BEATS FASTER and your

BREATHING INCREASES, and you really FEEL THAT TOTAL

PERFECTION (fire anchor again) ... I just want to tell

you I'm having a great time with you tonight. It sure

is better that being with all those jerks out there.

Cause I know some guys can be so crude. It's like the

other night, I was in a bar ... and this guy walks

right up to a girl and he says:

"Can you IMAGINE HOW GREAT IT WOULD FEEL if I were

going down on you, exactly the way you like it, all

night long, and you were SO HOT AND SO WET YOU WERE

BEGGING TO HAVE ME INSIDE YOU?" I can't believe how

crude some guys can be!!!

Her: Oh, God, oh God, please fuck me!!!!!

OTHER PATTERN'S TO LEARN:

Alex's "The Door Pattern"

Alex's "Indiscretion Pattern"

Rob's "Creativity Pattern"

Recommended reading:

1. "Trance-Formations" by John Grinder and Richard

Bandler

2. "Monsters and Magical Sticks: There's No Such Thing As

Hypnosis" by Steve Gilligan

3. "Unlimited persuasion" by Donald Moine